Context -- You know that girl I had problems with disrespect earlier? Long story short we got back together, and have been BACK together for a bit of time now. Another long story short, things are a lot different with how she talks to me. In a nutshell, once I developed feelings for her I became a nice guy, went with the flow, avoided conversations that I thought she wouldn't like, was a yes man, didn't have enough balls to speak my mind, would tell white lies, ETC which in return she started disrespecting me and it slowly grew more and more until I finally got my backbone again. Basically it was her testing me and subconsciously saying "Man the fuck up! Quit acting like a weak man. This makes me unhappy". (Noticed how I said "Once I developed feelings for her" because in the beginning she was sweet. I slowly became a soft pussy over time and had no idea) I'll make another thread detailing how I did so, because sharing my experience and my growth will be beneficial to SEVERAL people who were like me. Anyways, on to the subject at hand...

Subject -- AT 10 PM TODAY I found that my girl liked another guys selfie on facebook. It was a selfie of his upper body, with a shirt ON. (A normal selfie) He's not ugly, he's a decent looking guy. Am I better looking? Yes. I don't care though. If you're my girlfriend you're not liking another guys selfie, period. (Before I'd never had the balls to tell her this)

I called her out on liking this guy's selfie. She didn't know what I was talking about. So I sent her proof and she said that was months ago. She also said "And besides we were broken up and weren't even talking". She continued to go on saying how her parents left and she's free and she's down to hangout as long as it's good vibes. (FUCK THIS! My old dumb ass would've accepted the offer. But through my growth these last few weeks I now know to punish bad behavior) I told her that I didn't care for her excuses and to unlike the selfie pic now. She threw it back on me telling me to quit being demanding, and for me to stop being insecure. At this point I ignored her. (Before I'd keep arguing) She knows I'm displeased with her behavior, and I'm not going to beat a dead horse. She continued a little bit more basically saying that I'm being petty and insecure and to hit her up when I'm normal and wished me a great weekend. I'm not going to hit her up. She's trying to flip the wrong on me and using my old Corey Wayne line that I used to use LOL.

Fast forward 3 hours from this incident. (7 PM TODAY) (Note that my girl is a president of a club on campus) She tells me about this same guy and says she is going to make him vice president of the club, instead of her lazy girlfriends that want to become vice president to put it on their resume, because he's kind of nerdy and they're not close friends. As a results she says he will take her seriously and do the things she asked. I told her that she made a smart decision.

BREAKING NEWS - She didn't tell me she did, but I checked the guys selfie and she unliked it.

Based on everything above, and assuming she reaches out to me and tells me she unliked his selfie, my question for you guys is this: Should I tell her that she needs to de-throne this guy as vice president of her club? If so, I'd tell her like this, "You liked this guy's selfie while we were broken up. That's telling him you find him attractive, while you were single. NOW you made him the vice president of your club. That's VERY suspicious and questions my trust for you. You need to find a new vice president". Or is this going overboard? Because even if she does de-throne him as VP the guy is still going to go to the club. (Which is fine if he still attends the club. The club is based on culture, and he shares our culture)

And to give you info on what type of girl I'm dating, look below...

Background on my girl: Been dating my girl a little over a year total. I took her virginity. I'm the first guy she's kissed. We had some minibreaks, and during so I did kiss a couple other girls and was talking to a few other chicks. She wasn't talking to other guys. During one of our minibreaks where there was no contact for a day or 2, all of her girlfriends/friends went to a night club but she didn't out of respect for me. I'm not cool with my girlfriend partying, clubbing, etc and I laid that out from the very beginning. We weren't together during this "minibreak" and yet she still didn't go to the club. As you can see she is more on the conservative side of things.

Based on all this information I'm hoping you experienced guys can give me a clear answer to my question above! Thanks!

If she had a business, would you try to control who she hired? And dude, don't hide behind being middle eastern when you are fucking her outside of marriage.

Im not out of my mind. Because I don't want my girl liking other guys selfies that makes me out of my mind? No, we are middle eastern. We are not nearly as open as western people. Or am I out of my mind because how I described my self growth? No this is definitely not true as I can tell in the way she talks to me and how she is around me now. She's super wet when we have sex now, constantly calls me sweet names, etc. Huge difference from before.

@Neo No I'm over the revenge mindset now. I'm focused on my passion, investments, etc. I'm no longer dependent on her which makes me so much more emotionally grounded.

Anyways I'd like to know what you guys think about the Vice President thing? Stop throwing shade and give me a straight answer. Please and thank you.

Doesn't matter if I'm fucking her. We're not 100% westernized, nor are we 100% middle easternized. We have a balance of the two. Take some of the west (I.e., dating, sex, etc) with some of the Middle East (Need to be conservative, not as open as the west, etc)

Okay so that's overboard. That's all I needed to know. I'm still going to speak my mind and tell her, if she reaches out to me and says she unliked the guys pic, that she put me in a weird position as she did make this guy VP. But I'm not going to make her de-throne the dude because that's ridiculous.

Doesn't matter if I'm fucking her. We're not 100% westernized, nor are we 100% middle easternized. We have a balance of the two. Take some of the west (I.e., dating, sex, etc) with some of the Middle East (Need to be conservative, not as open as the west, etc)

See you guys can't grasp the middle eastern culture. I can't blame you bc you don't know what it is. Let me put it this way, if the roles were reversed and I did what she did she would definitely be upset with me.

My girl isn't liking another dudes selfie, period. Call me crazy but that's just the easy way for you guys to say "I don't understand where you're coming from". Here's another example that you all probably won't get. We don't hug the opposite sex. To you guys this is something normal. To us that's not and its disrespectful. Our cultures have different values and you need to understand that instead of saying "It's insecure. You're crazy".

@Neo It took me a whole minute to do so. But that whole minute means I can't focus on my investments and my passion? You don't know what you're talking about. You're not even reading my posts because you keep repeating the same thing after I addressed it.

@Jack Yeah her "Go." Now turned into a "babe the light is green". I trained her. I got my balls back. I have a backbone. I am leading. I am not indecisive with her. Clown all you want but her attitude adjustment tells me I'm DEFINITELY doing something right. And don't you worry, the details of how I did so will come soon for everyone's benefit.

I found my answer. This thread can be put to rest.

Thanks fellas.

So as of the last couple of weeks I've been really striving to become a better version of myself. Less insecure, less controlling.... you know less bad vibes and more good vibes. Cuz at the end of the day you should have the attitude of she's banging me... amirite???

Anyways -- B/c of so I noticed my girl being EXTREMELY happy as of lately. Like whoa.. I've RARELY seen my girl like this. Damn this is dope! If there's even a slight attitude I go to digging mode and quickly find out why so I can put her ass back into HAPPY mode! Things are fucking great when it's like this.

@Jack Yeah her "Go." Now turned into a "babe the light is green". I trained her. I got my balls back. I have a backbone. I am leading. I am not indecisive with her. Clown all you want but her attitude adjustment tells me I'm DEFINITELY doing something right. And don't you worry, the details of how I did so will come soon for everyone's benefit.