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What is bothering you about the situation? That she doesnt contact you when she goes out? That she goes out and stays late? That she goes out in general?
What bothers me is that she doesn't contact me, stays out late or sometimes doesn't even come back home, that's just plain disrespectful.
First, thanks for answering my questions as best as you could. I'll give detailed thoughts now:
The reason I ask what exactly is bothering you, is because unless you're just going to throw her stuff on the streets and block her number, you 2 are going to have a discussion/argument about this. And if you repeat her actions and just say "thats just plain disrespectful", she asks "why is it", you cant give a specific reason, you 2 go round and round and nothing is resolved. Whatever is bothering you, be able to be SPECIFIC. Like, I dont know if you have a problem with her going out without you, staying out late (and if this is it, why...ie trust issues, safety concerns?), not checking in with you when she's out.
Like what do you want?
a) Her to NOT go out without you?
b) Her to NOT go out AS MUCH without you?
c) Her to text you when she is out?
d) Her to not stay out past midnight or some time?
Is it that you are worried for her safety? Unsure of what she is doing? Missing her? Worried that not texting you means she's having too much fun?
Thats not me justifying her actions; if she said she wont do something and she didnt keep that promise, you should be upset. But I'm saying you gotta know whats bothering you specifically about her actions. As n2 says. This is all over the place with reasons why its bothering you.
One thing about the argument you describe, is its shitty communication and a lack of respect on her side. You ask where something is, she goes off. Thats dysfunction. But you say you start arguments and are partly to blame. You know whats going on with that, and whether that plays a role. Could be a disrespectful gf who doesnt give a fuck to come home early, or a sign of chick who doesnt want to contact you when she's out because you may blow up. Staying out that late and with no contact, is a red flag...now that could be a red flag for cheating, for u 2 being incompatible, for her avoiding arguments at home, I dunno. I'd add that you dont really seem interested in her friends like that. I see 3 instances she went out, 2 you couldve gone and you didnt. So I'm the mind that hey if I invite you out and you decline, I'll go have fun.
Its tough because I'd like to say "dump the ho", but I dont know if the arguments make her stay out more or more resistant to contacting you. I dont know if you not liking her friends and not going out with them makes her say fuckit, I'm gonna have fun instead of texting this bore at home. If you're dating someone, I'd say have compatible lifestyles, have respectful communication and take a real interest in their friends. Those things are lacking here. Your gfs actions are causing problems; I just cant tell whether they are the issue, or symptoms of bigger issues.