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hah if she wants the old me then i guess she wants an aggresive pot head that doesnt give 2 fucks about her.... fuckin females man, all this fuckin work :@
In a sense, yes. But, only because of how she interpreted the "old you."
For instance, she could have interpreted your aggressiveness as "he is a go-getter, goes after what he wants, and doesn't take crap from people."
You being a pot head, she could have interpreted as something along the lines of you being a wild, adventurous, rebel, or a bad-boy.
And not giving 2 fucks about her is easily interpreted as: "He doesn't need me, he values himself more than he values me, he isn't trying to chase me, I need to earn his attention."
We often hear "nice guys finish last" and "women always go for the jerks." This is because nice guys are needy, and being a jerk is often mistaken for confidence.
So, if you can develop the traits she believed you possessed when you started dating, then you'll be on the right track.
-Turn aggressiveness into assertiveness. Become that go-getter who goes after what he wants and doesn't take crap from people.
-Turn being a pot head into being adventurous. Go try new things and seek out new experiences. This doesn't have to be drugs, nor should it be, but make a list of things you've never done before and go do them. i.e. go skydiving, swim with dolphins, go rock climbing, learn a new language, take salsa dancing lessons, ride in a hot air balloon, send a message in a bottle, etc.
-Turn "not giving 2 fucks" into truly valuing yourself and having confidence in yourself as a man.