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Author:  Chris Bale [ Thu Apr 30, 2015 2:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Friendly Conversation - The Reason You're Not Getting Laid

A video I released a while back, helping guys break a hugely common sticking point. Hope this helps some peeps.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skf_zZb3rHk[/youtube]

Chris B :)

Author:  Noone [ Thu Apr 30, 2015 3:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Friendly Conversation - The Reason You're Not Getting La

Quote:
A video I released a while back, helping guys break a hugely common sticking point. Hope this helps some peeps.

Chris B :)
What your mentioning here is basically what I learned from one of Cajun's videos.. Subtext, correct? I think the example he gives is going up to a girl and saying, "I love salad, it's nutritious and delicious. Don't you love salad?" and if you say it blankly, it's just weird and matter of fact. If he delivers it with the subtext of, I'm just fucking with you, then the girl can see he's just joking and may actually find humor in the randomness of the sentence.

What I'm gathering is, if you go in there and communicate in a 'I want you' subtext? You're not being friendly, you want to find out about this gorgeous girl and whether or not she meets your standards to take this further? Because we don't want to convey neediness either, correct?

Author:  Chris Bale [ Thu Apr 30, 2015 4:08 pm ]
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Yes....the underlying intention, and your level of acceptance(which equals how strong and freely you can project it) is all that really matters. Words are not very important ever!

Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Apr 30, 2015 4:47 pm ]
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Dope ass video.

Exactly what I write about.

Regardless of the words coming out of your mouth, a woman feels the vibe, energy, and thoughts that are being projected from behind your words.

Keep living the dream bro.

Author:  Noone [ Sat May 02, 2015 3:40 pm ]
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Just returning to this for a moment since I'm reading "Rules of the Game" and following the missions in it just as a general starting point (I'll probably disregard the MM, canned openers, etc. stuff since it is outdated and not how I want to be in the field..). It's only day one (which I've done before) and I'm reading Style's section on limiting beliefs (which goes back to Inner Game).

LIMITING BELIEF: If I approach a woman, she'll know I'm hitting on
her and think I'm lame.
REALITY: This is only partially true—women think this only when men
approach them badly. This includes men who make them uncomfortable, creep
them out, or seem to have an agenda. The biggest mistake a man can make
with a woman is hitting on her before she's attracted to him. And though this
describes the so-called technique of most men, its a mistake you'll avoid if you
follow your daily missions. Few women will resent meeting someone who is
warm, funny sincere. interesting, engaging, makes them feel comfortable, and
isn't going to stick around talking their ear off.

Disregard this? Assume attraction when you go in. Visualize in your mind arousal that involves this girl so everything you are communicating is engrossed in this frame and she will sense it too. You are warm, funny, sincere, interesting, engaging, you are high value, the best possible guy out there and you are giving her an invitation to enter your world. Where she can experience fun, pleasure and break out of the mundane. So don't worry about "getting attraction before hitting on the girl", assume attraction, get in the right frame, communicate that through body-language, subtext and even your words?

Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat May 02, 2015 4:15 pm ]
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Quote:
Just returning to this for a moment since I'm reading "Rules of the Game" and following the missions in it just as a general starting point (I'll probably disregard the MM, canned openers, etc. stuff since it is outdated and not how I want to be in the field..). It's only day one (which I've done before) and I'm reading Style's section on limiting beliefs (which goes back to Inner Game).

LIMITING BELIEF: If I approach a woman, she'll know I'm hitting on
her and think I'm lame.
REALITY: This is only partially true—women think this only when men
approach them badly. This includes men who make them uncomfortable, creep
them out, or seem to have an agenda. The biggest mistake a man can make
with a woman is hitting on her before she's attracted to him.
And though this
describes the so-called technique of most men, its a mistake you'll avoid if you
follow your daily missions. Few women will resent meeting someone who is
warm, funny sincere. interesting, engaging, makes them feel comfortable, and
isn't going to stick around talking their ear off.

Disregard this? Assume attraction when you go in. Visualize in your mind arousal that involves this girl so everything you are communicating is engrossed in this frame and she will sense it too. You are warm, funny, sincere, interesting, engaging, you are high value, the best possible guy out there and you are giving her an invitation to enter your world. Where she can experience fun, pleasure and break out of the mundane. So don't worry about "getting attraction before hitting on the girl", assume attraction, get in the right frame, communicate that through body-language, subtext and even your words?

What would make you think women don't want to be hit on? Would you want a hot loving, fun girl to approach you while you're walking down your street and ask for your number so she could buy you dinner and entertain you tonight? Now would you want a woman who is very much unattractive (physically for women, poor approaches and low confidence for men) to approach you and do this? Probably not. Women know you're hitting on them whether your approach is bad or good. They run on intuition. But who doesn't want to be swept off their feet today? Who doesn't want the beginning of their romantic story and future family to start today? Who doesn't want mind blowing sex with someone that makes them feel sexy and comfortable today? On what planet would any sane human being be opposed to such a thing?

The reality is everyone wants to be seduced by someone who knows how to seduce them. No one wants to work five days a week for 40 hours without any excitement in their life. Be the reason that someone has meaning. Give a chick another reason to live. You have to believe in your value. Your approach could be the beginning of the rest of someones life. Seriously. Women are waiting on you. They're depending on you developing the skills to bring more joy and fulfillment into their reality.

Author:  Chris Bale [ Mon May 04, 2015 10:57 am ]
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Everytime i read shit like "women dont want to be hit on by a guy until she first shows attraction" i want to punch a kitten.

THIS belief is so prevelant by the majority of men, even the ones who come to me for coaching. "so, let me get this straight Chris, you want me to just tell her im blatanlty hitting on her?"

This is the best bit of advice i can give anyone, and once i accepted it, my life changed and so did my success. Are you ready?

I will use caps...

WOMEN LOVE BEING HIT ON BY MEN WHO ARE COMFORTABLE HITTING ON THEM!

If you are all jiterry, shaky and genuinely awkward when hitting on her, this becomes really uncomfortable for her, because you are basically telling her, "im not even sure about this, nor do i feel this is right, so i am going against my own morals as a man, but hey, wanna follow me anyway?"

Fuck NO. I wouldnt. You wouldnt, so why would you expect a woman to follow through with you if you dont even fully believe it yourself. The persona would have to be really fucking stupid. And i presume you dont want stupid women in your life?

Own your motherfuckin shit. Hitting on a woman is beautiful! You are giving her the greatest gift of all, your masculine desire. You are not there to take shit from her, you are there to offer.

Be ok with this. If you are currently not, then start with that.

Start conversations with girls and verbailze...Im hitting on you!

Once you begin to own it, you will rarely have to ever verbalize it, as it was mainly just a tool for you to accept your own intentions and relax into them naturally.

Good luck, you got this!
Chris

Author:  Noone [ Mon May 04, 2015 6:18 pm ]
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I've been watching a lot of your videos on your YouTube channel. It's a very simplistic but natural approach. It definitely is no frills, no gimmicks, just communicate intent, desire, recognize it is natural, it is nature, and that you as a confident, fun man can bring value, experience and so much more into world, should she meet the standards you set for the people you allow into your reality.

I'm gonna own who I am, my own desires as a man, communicate that through my eyes, body language, and through my vocalization and see where it takes me.

Keep the material coming man. Much appreciated.

EDIT: Just a question. I live outside a big city (30 mins) and so I work out at a local gym. It isn't high volume. There's two girls (HB7 and HB8) who work the front desk since I've been going back and I've kept this advice in my mind with both of them. I've tried to be aroused and in a sexual state with strong eye connect (working on this as eye-contact is one of those things that I get that tingly nervousness with) while leading the conversation, letting them talk about themselves and interjecting a little bit of anecdotal stuff about me, not much to remain mysterious.

HB7 was receptive right off the bat, kept trying to get into conversations with me whenever I was between sets talking to my buddy who is focusing on losing weight rather than building muscle.
HB8 didn't re-engage in any conversations but she talked my ear off to the point where I had to break the conversation so that I could get my work-out in before closing.

Obviously, I'll be able to see them again and if I've done the state thing well enough, they would know that I was flirting with them but I don't think I was able to communicate intent well enough due to the setting. Next time should I try to get into deeper eye-contact, more of a sexual intent frame when speaking to them and attempt to lead the conversation to something they enjoy doing/want to do and try to #close them?

Just wondering how to translate this from a cold-open approach in the street/mall to where the girl is working.

Author:  Verhnny [ Mon Dec 24, 2018 9:40 am ]
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Everytime i read shit like "women dont want to https://pilpedia.com/ be hit on by a guy until she first shows attraction" i want to punch a kitten. :D

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