I am in no rush to get it on with a girl. The "wisdom" of the players that says if you don't lay her right away, she won't be interested in you, is wrong. First of all, all girls are different and secondly all relationships are different. If you meet her in a club, it is often the case that she does want you to pull the trigger and have sex that night. However, if you are going out with a girl and dating, anticipation actually makes her want you more.
In fact, if you do things too quickly and she doesn't feel great afterwards, then you may lose her. Whereas if you wait for her to want it, and then start to work for it too, then you can get a long term girlfriend. And trust me, when you want to go for the long term, the dynamic of the relationship is all!
Anyway ... here is a good date that I realized. It works especially well if she's been to your place before, whether you guys have got it on or just made out for a little bit and she went home.
Basically the idea is you build something together. Sometimes you order some sort of furniture, and she comes over and helps you put it together. Or you can cook together. The point is, that you are creating something together. The activity provides great opportunities to get close and flirt with each other. And do kino escalation. Also you get to be the leader telling her what to do. Once you guys have completed it, you enjoy the results together (home cooked meal, sitting on the couch and making out, whatever). And THEN you grab her and take her to your bedroom. After a workout like that, she will want to relax on your bed and you will be "rewarding" her with a nice massage. And then she will reward you as well. And then you both are happy.
So anyway, I just think this date has all the great elements. She comes over to HELP YOU -- setting the correct dynamic, that she's not a moocher off of you, that it's more fun to do things together and help each other out. You get to lead her and be a man. Both of you get to flirt while doing something else. Also she is looking forward to getting it on with you on your bed. And when it finally happens -- and the clothes are off -- she already feels really close to you.