Don't know about you guys, but have you ever read a post on here where you read it and then think about your life and realise that the post is absolutely bang on?
I'm sat here thinking of my most successful relationships (friendships as well) with women, and that 1st rule you put up is bang on. When you're not the one always putting more effort in etc. etc. and it's a balanced relationship/friendship/set up whatever, things always work out loads better.
And that last line I've quoted is absolutely 100% bang on. It's something I have probably subconsciously done at times now that I think back, but reading your post has really just cleared it in my mind. More focussed on that. Cheers "Yeah", good post mate!
Yup yup yup. People can learn all the game they want,, and study a bunch of products, but that game will ALL be crippled (though they can get laid a lot, keeping the girls is a different story) if they don't come to the deep down realization (AH HAH moment) which gets the unconscious to understand (unlearn a good little boy quality!) that women want to be with the valuable guy AND that anything he does that communicates that he's less valuable (that's what they are trying to convey with "he's needy") trigger MOM qualities/emotions/role in a woman which can be ok A LITTLE BIT (your best friend died or similar) so don't panic but too much over time and she can't help but lose attraction. Women cannot stop this process.
Understanding this on a deep level (again, an AH HAH moment) and paying attention to women's complaints about men in light of it causes you to understand women in general 100x+ MORE THAN THEY DO!!!!
For instance, people biatch about women biatching about how guys act when they're sick with the flu or whatever illness but they rarely say or know why, they just say it irritates them.
Well, what's centrally going on with the woman is that when a guy acts like he's totally down for the count and helpless, he's behaving like he's not valuable AND she's forced into a situation where she feels unconscious pressure to start babying him which temporarily steers the relationship towards MOM --> CHILD. Steer clear of any ROLE dynamic that even slightly smells of MOM --> CHILD.
Solution: Stick with the #1 rule as best as possible. Behave as close to "it aint no thing" by behaving
that way and say something like "i appreciate you making things easier for me when I'm not feeling well, i really like that quality in you" < --- reframe the illness as "no biggie" AND keep the "you're my girl" frame AND "pay for" her being a good wife/girlfriend at the same time AND lets her know she's a winner (women do read that much AND more into little things like that). Thus, she's nurturing in a good girlfriend/wife way and you still keep your value.
THIS IS WHAT WOMEN WANT ABOVE ALL ELSE....BEING WITH THE (from the feminine perspective) VALUABLE MAN WHO ALWAYS KEEPS THAT FRAME!
Another way I've heard it said is that women do not want to host the best party in town, they want to be on the A-list and at the best part in town....BE THAT PARTY!
Related to this is the fact that you have to let her know she's doing well and this is where when women say "little things matter" comes into play.....in light of the #1 rule, extravagant gestures bug them but they (on a deep, long term level) like smaller things because they don't tip the VALUE balance. This is why let's say you're out somewhere and you happen to be near the stationary section of a store and you remember she mentioned she needs a new notepad or something and you purchase it for a few dollars and casually mention you were in that section and was thinking of her, SHE'LL BE THRILLED. You've made yourself more emotionally valuable and raised her feeling of value at the same time so the balance is kept and you both win.
(for special occasions, you SHOULD violate the rule, like xmas, anniversary, if she's ill, etc... ie: don't be a dick!)
OTOH, if you clearly start going out of your way and buying her a bunch of stuff all the time it violates the rule and after a while she'll leave for another guy AND SHE CAN'T HELP IT. IT'S THE WAY THEY'RE WIRED. This is mostly why a guy who gives a girl everything she wants will lose the girl. He's blatantly violating the rule and the woman cannot be blamed, she's wired that way. (a woman's hierarchy of needs is a factor as well in this, but that's a very different topic)
A complete course spanning a dozen CDs only focused on my #1 rule would be enough for ANY man to be extremely magnetically attractive to women. In fact, I would suggest that men do as I do when I'm studying a course.....I've internalized a "how does this relate to conveying high value to women on a deep level
" thought process so that whatever I'm being told always gets evaluated regarding that.
Keep the #1 rule consciously in mind until your unconscious internalizes it. Violations of the rule should be extremely rare and for well thought out reasons.