nanoelite007
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 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 5:34 pm Post subject: tension |
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| ok.. attraction is my strength and im incredibly endearing so i hear.. but im suck on creating sexual tension.. im alpha, domineering, bold, confident, and unpredictable, (mind you fucken took a hell of alot of humiliation to get it right) but sexual tension is idk.. i dont know where to start.. if its created its because they start it.. adn i try to play along |
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Creating sexual tension. Its a tough sticking point for many people in the community and I'm glad you brought this up. Much of it goes back to the very first interaction and proper use of kino escalation. You should be touching her very soon during the interaction to establish yourself as a touching person. As you move from attraction to comfort you've already been touching her hands lightly, her back, light hitting maybe. So when you get to comfort the kiss is just another small step to take from the physical interaction you've already had. Then from kissing to more intimate touching. Of course, this isn't the only part of building sexual tension.
You also do it with the topics that you talk about and what you say. For example when I'm in comfort sometimes I'll play the Mystery Question Game. To give you a quick breakdown you say, "Ever played the question game?" HB's response...You act like you are making it up on the fly by pausing and saying Ummm and Hmmm. "Okay, first rule is you can't ask a question that's already been asked. mmmm, second rule is you have to ask questions that let skeletons out of the closet, like truth or dare but without the dare because I'm not sure how weird you really are....Third rule, you go first!" She'll likely say, no you go first. Either way your first questions is, "How many boyfriends have you had?" She can't use the question back, if she breaks the rules neg her playfully about it. The you can ask questions like, "Favorite sexual position, or Weirdest place you've done it?" If she doesn't want to play don't play. But you can see how this would build tension.
And can lead right to Mystery's Kiss Gambit...."Do you want to kiss me right now?" If yes, kiss her. maybe, "Lets find out" and kiss her. No, "I didn't say you could just looked like you had something on your mind."
There are many ways to do this but this a the best example that comes to my mind quickly. So remember, between kino escalation, your body language, and conversation topics will build or not build sexual tension.
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