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emil23j
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 Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 1:52 pm Post subject: Strange situation need feedback. |
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So this is my problem boys and girls(?). first of all excuse me for the novel but I needed to get alot of stuff in there lol.
See I've been talking to this shorty and I know she digs me and we've met a few times you know basicly just talking and both of us have enjoyed it, or atleast I think so.
But on thursday I texted her asking if she wanted to go on a date this weekend and she says this "...(My name)! hm sorry about the diss I'm about to give you right now now.. We will probably see each other this weekend but I'm not at all in the mood for a date right now. thanks anyway"..
So I'm like alrite I blew it somehow BUT then both of us was at the same game today (separately with our peeps) and she comes over and sits and talks with me, from like half of the second quarter till the game is over, like everything is all good. we have a decent conversation I guess but I'm not really feeling it cause I have no idea what thehell is going on so I guess I was a bit reserved didn't try to make any jokes or what ever. basicly just talking about the game.
So now what do I do?
Do I ask her about that comment and say that I am confused and don't know whats up. cause you know I thought I blew it but now it seems like I didn't but I'm not really sure.
We are gonna be at the same game tomorrow too but she is gonna be working so I guess I can only talk to her at halftime, and maybe not even then...
Hope someone can shed some light.
And yeah my boy who knows her pretty well and introduced us he said that she can be like that from day to day and that I shouldn't really worry about it. |
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Wilde
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Dude,
Let me tell you from experience, and recent experience at that (fuck, most of the members on here will agree), DO NOT CONFRONT HER ABOUT IT.
Don't don't, do not do it.
In her mind, she probably sees you as no more than friends at the moment, and you need to work on the attraction between you two. The fact that she made mention of a "date" when you'd not used that word before means you've possibly come on too strong and she's scared.
Here's what you do:
Back off a little, play it very cool. Don't go up to her at the next game to talk specifically with her, order a drink or something (i'm presuming she works behind a bar?) and strike up a little playful convo. then. This also shows you have a life and are taking the time to enjoy yourself without her company.
Harsh as it may sound, she needs this reality check in order to appreciate you. As soon as she clocks on to the fact that you're not paying her as much attention as you were, and are leading a life of your own, she's gonna get curious and want to become a part of that life, and funnily enough, pay you more attention.
Try this intentional disinterest tactic for a week or so and see how she reacts, stick it out for another week if neccessary. Then, you invite her to tag along to an activity you're gonna be doing anyway (bowling for example), and I'd be willing to bet my bottom dollar she'll come if you follow what i've said above right.
In the meantime, you also need to ensure you're socialising with other people as much as possible, making sure she knows you are, and set your eyes on other targets. Don't let her become a one-itis.
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emil23j
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 2:37 pm Post subject: |
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no she works with stats and all that stuff...
I am pretty confident that she gonna come to me during halftime but we'll see.
Don't really know if I scared her tho cause well she mentioned like a week ago that we should go on a date. AND I forgot to mention this. but SHE is actually the one that started all this up. I had no idea who shorty was but she has been asking my boy about me and had been checking me out for awhile now.
thanks for your input tho I think I'm gonna play it cool for a week or so and see what happens.
Another thing tho. on wednesday we are (again) gonna be a the same game, if she starts texting (as she usually do) do I hit her back or just ignore? |
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Wilde
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You need to start up a punishment and reward system. If she texts you with something positive, (i.e. Let's go hang next Wednesday), you reward her by spending time conversing with her and spending time with her. If she texts you with something negative (i.e. Let's not go on a date) you punish her by freezing her out until she gets back in touch with you. And that goes for any form of communication - texting, phone, online or in person. If she says something negative in person, make your excuses and leave - she'll soon get the picture. Remember, she needs to be chasing after you for this to work.
It's a simple form of push-pull (go download Swinggcat's ebook), and will, if used properly, drive her crazy for you.
If she's the one instigating the contact, but also flaking out on you, she's in control, and there's nothing worse than a woman being in control over you. You definitely need to regain that by playing it cool and punishing/rewarding as appropriate.
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emil23j
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 4:00 pm Post subject: |
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sweet man thanks for the help.
Im definetly reading that book! |
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Wilde
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 4:07 pm Post subject: |
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| No worries man. Yeah do it, it's $39.95 and worth every cent. |
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emil23j
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 4:13 pm Post subject: |
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yo 39.95. hold on dawg, I appreciate your help and all but that's too steep. I got my other books for free. I'm gonna browse the internet first and see what I find.
I've already read Double your dating and I have the following books:
Mystery Magic Bullets
Sex - Psychology - How To Create Instantaneos Sexual Attraction
Neil_Strauss_-_The_Game_2005_
have you read anyone of them? and if so which should I get on for this stuff? |
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Wilde
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| Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 4:52 pm Post subject: |
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Haha dude,
You're gonna have to be willing to invest in yourself a little if you wanna progress in this game. Sure you can find a lot of these books for free off torrent sites, but if you really wanna learn you're gonna have to look out for stuff that's gonna help you. Price really shouldn't be too much of an issue.
I'd say the amount you wanna learn is reflected by the amount you wanna spend... |
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