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Klover
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 Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 8:26 pm Post subject: Stood up |
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| So... I was supposed to go out on a one-on-one date with this girl on Saturday, we actually were supposed to go out on Wednesday, but she said she wasn't feeling good, so I rescheduled of her next free night, she told me Saturday, so we made plans to go out on Saturday night. So Saturday morning/afternoon came around, and I sent a quick text saying "are we still on for tonight?" an hour later, she responded with "yep I've been sleeping", I took that as “yep, were still on for tonight”, and she's been sleeping, that's why it took her an hour to respond. I then sent a few more text message to her through the day, all of the text messages, were asking questions like, “I was thinking we'd go out around 7:30” and when I didn’t get a response for two hours I said “does that time work for you?” after no response for about two and a half hours, I decided to give her a call, I got her voicemail, I left a very polite message, after about another half an hour, it was 7:45pm and I figured nothing was going to happen, I accepted the fact that I had been stood up, so I went in to the city (Chicago) for a night on the town with some friends. I was very excited to go out with this girl, but obviously she didn’t feel the same way. Now I’ve come to terms with the fact that, she stood me up, and that she doesn’t want to go out with me, but I really want to let her know she’s acting like a child, I do frequent the bar that she works at once or twice a week, but I don’t know if I should call, text, or the next time I’m in the bar, treat her as if she missed out on the greatest guy in the world? I’m looking for some advise from real PUA’s, guys who have been in my shoes, and have had to deal with these situations. |
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ajberry
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| Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2008 8:37 pm Post subject: |
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Don't text, call or speak to her.
If you go to this bar, let her come up to you. When she does, she'll be like "sorry, wasn't feeling great" or something.
Then say, well I ended up going out and had an awesome night.
Then, DO NOT ask her out again. If she asks you out, then you'll have to play it cool, sorta like "Well, I dunno.....you flaked on me before you'll have to make it up to me"
Then she'll be qualifying herself to you.
If she doesn't mention it, nothing is likely to happen here, so get on the game 
For future, I wouldn't have text her/called so many times, made you look a bit needy. And if arranging something, I always prefer to talk rather than text.
Hope this helps! |
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jdogg
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i agree with the above poster about seeming needy with all those texts... I know its hard to resist, but sometimes you just have to wait for a response from them before you text.... I like to think of it as a game of "Pong". You hit the ball her way, now you have to wait for her to hit it back towards you.
Just think of it this way....
someone is waiting at a elevator continually pressing the button thinking that that will make the elevator go faster. That first "push" was good enough. If the elevator doesnt want to work for them, it wont regardless of how many times they push that damn button, lol. |
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leftytheking
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| Nice analogy, jdogg... |
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Remmi
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| Posted: Fri Feb 29, 2008 11:33 pm Post subject: Stood up-Help! |
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Arite make a long story short-girl from work-hang out at the bar with her from time to time-shes shown a few IOI's she approached me yesturday & wanted me to go out to a bar with her and some friends-i invited her out to a different bar a little more quiet so i can game a little easier-she didnt show up-i texted a few times she responded the first couple were showing alot of IOI then all of a sudden she just stopped texting-texted her this morning she hasnt responded-what do i do when i see her at work
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