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This post is largely in reference to online game transitioning to the first date.
Even after sexual screening online, it seems that once I begin talking about sex at all on the first date, whether POF, tinder, etc, it automatically triggers ASD in some form. I cannot draw the line between displaying sexual intent without giving her a reason to blow me out. I am not introducing the sex talk in a way that suggests it's me and her. Just seems like a very fine line to be on to avoid friendzone or be desperate sexual creep. Granted you keep abundance mentality and not give a shit, but when it happens more often than not it gets sort of ridiculous. Its tough because usually mentioning sex on any of these apps get you blown out before you can even set up the date, which makes you even more incongruent once you try to display intentions. Even if you frame it successfully online, by the time date night rolls along, it is mostly forgotten. Any thoughts? I'm a noob btw.
Sexual conversation does not keep you out of the friendzone, SLEEPING with her keeps you out of the friendzone. All that matters is you sleep with her. Sure, sexual talk can be a great tool to make it even more on when you do have sex, but does it really accomplish much? I've known girls who had good sexual conversations with in person or online who I never slept with, and I've had girls who were devout Christians and didn't talk about sex who I slept with. At the end of the day, in the bedroom, that's when you know a girl is DTF. The biggest sex talkers turn out to be teases, the reserved girls turn out to be freaks. On a date, your priority should be to get her to and make her comfortable at a location to have sex. That's all.
Post your examples and get feedback, sure work on the things you say. But actions beat words. You don't always need to set it up verbally. Most girls want sex. Most girls will sleep with you sooner than you think. You can use words to screen girls who respond well to it, but remember, many girls are teases, many girls get ASD. Talking about sex does not ensure that sex will occur.