Hi,
When I first had the vision of becoming both a superior, millionaire entrepreneur
and an irresistibly attractive chick magnet enjoying my dream international
playboy lifestyle during my late teenage years, I was so carried away and positive
about the idea of picking up and having sex with countless beautiful women.
I really thought that I was about to enjoy the most awesome time while pursuing
such glamorous lifestyle surrounded by super beautiful women and all the exotic,
luxury places I dreamed of visiting.
I was so convinced that I'd really enjoy it.
What I'm now going to share with you here is my personal discovery about how
desperately trying to lift up or fix your self esteem that somebody hurt can lead
you not only to that bad habit of constant validation seeking but also obsessions
and addictions that you've initially mistaken for your true passions.
For starters, here's a cool article and podcast about
why self-esteem is over-rated and
why you should just let it go no matter what.
As the result of my mistaken belief that I was really chasing my true passion and
my dream, the bad habit of constantly forcing myself to go out armed with openers
and condoms just to boldly approach and pick up as many random women as possible
eventually got me to the boiling point where I felt that I was not only losing my mental
health but also my whole self.
On my last day in the game when I was putting my shoes on to go out to do my daily
errands, I had an aha moment after having stopped for a second and asked myself:
Why do I constantly feel all this pressure every time I'm about to go out?
And, not only did I feel under pressure but also a sudden severe anxiety that struck me
so heavily that I thought I was going to go completely mad that day.
Guess what. That sudden severe anxiety was actually my approach anxiety linked with
that unnecessary pressure of having to boldly approach random women just to pick them
up every time I go out.
My subconscious mind got so clogged up with that abnormal pressure and anxiety that
I reached the point in my life where I got completely stuck in out-of-control, self destructive
and compulsive sexual behaviors.
To cut a long story short, I later learned that what I was suffering from for years just
for the fact that I was constantly forcing myself into doing what I never really loved and
enjoyed was not only sexual addiction but also the symtoms of two most common and
dangerous mental disorders characteristic of men who end up boldly and frantically
approaching random women just to pick them up and have sex with them. They are
borderline and narcissistic personality disorders.
To wrap this up, here's the conclusion I came to and the lesson I learned:
1. Whenever you find yourself in a situation where you constantly feel under pressure of
forcing yourself into doing something that you don't really love and enjoy, you should
immediately stop it for the sake of both your happiness and your overall well-being.
2. If you really want to stay away from all sorts of unnecessary external distractions
and your surroundings' negative influences, you should invest some time and effort to
pinpoint your true passions and then wholeheartedly commit to fulfilling them, because
once you're fully focused on pursuing your true passions, you'll be in such state of
happiness and sanity that nothing will be able to stop you on your way to leading a
happy, healthy and fulfilled life.
Hope you find this post enlightening and helpful.
Bruno
CHAT