you know what i am. of hot girls, i know deep down i want there validation even if i try not to think that way. im afraid because i may not be liked, as pussy and stupid as it sounds. i want to get over it, but i feel like solo day game is extremely difficult for me to do at the moment. this why im asking for advise on it.
It sounds like you have mild approach anxiety due to social conditioning. It is alot more socially acceptable to approach woman and flirt with them in bars and clubs at night. That's what the booze, loud music, and a place of social gathering is there for. However, it isn't socially acceptable to approach and flirt with women during the day.
You will have to practice approaching women during the day, until your approach anxiety is diminished. Also, i think you're trying to put too much pressure on yourself by trying to have long conversations with every girl that you approach. Start much much smaller to get yourself warmed up. I have some tips to get you more in-state as you get warmed-up with each and every approach.
* Begin by asking girls 1 - 3 for the time. They tell you the time, say "Thank you", then eject (about 5 to 10 seconds per set)
* Smile and high five girls 4 - 6 and eject, your vibe is getting a little bit better because you're getting out of your head and into your body. (about 1 to 3 seconds per set)
* Compliment girls 7 - 9, and eject (Example: "I like your dress") (about 10 to 15 seconds per set)
* Compliment girls 10 - 12, plus a question (Example: "I like your dress. Where did you get it from?"). Listen to the answer, respond back to the girl..she may respond back again. Then eject. Now you're getting into deeper conversations in your sets. (about 2 to 5 minutes per set)
* Now you should be warmed-up and more in-state, which means you're feeling alot bolder and close to 0 approach anxiety at this point. Stop girls 13 - 15, and tell them that you saw them walking and you thought that they were cute, adorable, or looked nice, etc. And that you would've kicked yourself later for not approaching them. Use stacking, or multi-conversational threads to segway into different topics during your dialogue between you and the girls. If she starts investing - asking you questions like "So where are you from?" or "What are you doing today?" this means that the set has hooked. Shortly after answering her questions..you can now go for the insta date. If she rejects that request - go for the number close. If she rejects that request also - go for the facebook close. (about 5 minutes + per set)
This is the standard outline that i use every time i do daygame. It's pretty efficient and simple. It's hard to go wrong with this simple daygame outline. This doesn't mean that you won't get rejected by several girls during this process..but it doesn't matter. Don't be stupid! Rejections are to be expected. Stick to the process regardless. It's designed to get you out of your head and into a more positive social and talkative vibe little bit by little bit.