| Do girls like being hit on the street by random men?
99% of girls will say no. Actually 100% will say no. The reason is
because most men who do it (construction workers, thugs) have
horrible street game. In reality girls love being hit on by men who
make them feel attraction and give them good conversation,
regardless of where it is.
I'm writing this a day after I got the number of an 8/8.5
(according to my friend's rating), who was walking alone early
Tuesday evening in Washington DC. Let me explain how I did it so
you can go out there and do it yourself. While you're reading see
if you can pick out the pattern as to why it worked.
While walking on the sidewalk I spotted a very cute girl coming
towards me and my friends from the opposite direction. The time was
around 8pm. My two friends didn't know I was going to approach her
so they sort of drifted off to the side and talked amongst
themselves fifteen feet away while the whole thing happened.
I stopped when she was about five feet away from me and said...
"Excuse me, do you by chance know a good bar to hang out at... one
that has more than five guys sitting all sad and lonely?"
She came to a stop and started throwing out names of bars. I
playfully shot down all her choices as not being cool and fun
enough. In fact I already knew all the bars in the area.
After about 90 seconds of talking about bars I said, "Well, I'm
actually looking for bride, a cool chick that I can marry hopefully
soon. I was hoping for a place around here where I could find her."
She laughed and mentioned one more bar name, as if I'd actually
find a bride there. I said, "Well we just came from around there
and it's pretty dead tonight. But actually you know what I'm
playing... I saw you walking and just wanted to talk to you." She
gave off one of those 'A-ha I knew it!' smiles.
The energy of the conversation changed for the better and without
too much of a pause I asked her where she was coming from. I
completely dropped my initial intention of looking for a bar and
just kept the conversation going like I would if I had started
talking to her inside one.
I played two quick and fun guessing games:
First: "Judging by your accent, I'm getting a half-German and
half-Norwegian vibe." If you've read Bang you'll see I adapted an
opener for use as a routine. She said no, that she's actually from
New York, and I smiled and said, "Are you sure? I don't know, maybe
a little Russian too."
Second: "And by the way, how old are you?" She replied, "Old enough
to get into a club." I said, "Haha wait wait, you're that young? No
really..." She said "20." You'll never meet a young girl who
doesn't like an older man, so I played it up instantly. I said,
"Well I hope you like older men, because I'm graying over here."
She said, "Actually I do."
I asked her where she was going and told her to join us later if
she has a fake ID. I added, "Well if I don't see you tonight, maybe
we can get a drink some other time."
She asked me for my name and I asked for hers and then I took out
my cell phone. She gave me her number. We talked for about seven
minutes total.
If this looked easy that's because it was. The only weird thing
about it was seeing an attractive girl like that walking alone in
D.C.
Let's identify the key reasons to why my approach worked.
1. DISARM. The street has a lot of crazies, so you need to disarm
her in the first second and let her know you are a cool, normal
guy. You do this with very relaxed body language, starting off with
"Excuse me," talking slow, and asking for help. It's hard for
anyone to resist helping someone, and if you've ever been a tourist
in a strange land you'll understand the human desire to be helpful.
This is our "in."
2. GET OVER THE HUMP. In street game there is a 30 second hump. If
she stops to talk to you for half-a-minute then she can stop and
talk indefinitely. I shot down her bar choices so the clock would
keep ticking.
3. MAKE HER LAUGH. It doesn't have to be with great jokes, but you
need to keep the energy light and fun, like you would in any other
pickup. I used the "bride" joke which I made up on the spot. A
couple jokes are okay but don't turn this into comedy hour. When
she recommends bars, I would say something like, "Oh that's too
yuppie" or "Hmm yeah that bar has scary people in it."
4. SEGUE. Your typical street game approach needs a segue that goes
from talking about bars or whatever you opened with to talking
about each other. In this case I did that by saying, "I just wanted
to talk to you," followed by a question that ended up teasing her.
Maybe you're thinking, "Roosh, but isn't this more of direct game?
I thought you only advocate indirect game."
Saying you wanted to talk her is barely direct. It's NOT like
saying, "Actually I saw how beautiful you were and I just had to
talk to you." That's too much.
If the girl is giving you a really strong vibe you can try this:
"Actually I say you walking and just wanted to flirt with you." She
may get a warm-and-fuzzy feeling inside and think, "Yes! This
random guy who I think I like probably likes me too."
5. BUILD ATTRACTION. Once you are done with the segue, build the
attraction a little more with teasing. Ask basic questions about
herself or do guessing games like I did.
6. CLOSE. This is where you use your initial opener to close her.
For example say it's during the day and on your college campus you
ask for the best place to have ice cream. When it's time to close
say, "Well I have to run, but how about some time soon we try
so-and-so ice cream shop."
If you asked her where there's a good pizza place, then you would
close by suggesting you two have pizza some time. It feels natural
that you called back your opener. On this girl I used bars to open,
so for me the close was asking to hang out for a drink.
It's not a bad idea to go for the instant date if it seems like she
doesn't have anywhere to go. I asked my girl where she was headed
and she said to meet up with friends, so I knew there would be no
instant date option.
If your girl doesn't seem to be doing anything then ask her if she
wants to join you for the ice cream, the pizza, or the drink then
and there. If she declines, say, "That's fine, how about some other
time?" and then take out your cell phone. If you're talking to a
girl for at least three minutes on the street and she asks you a
question, you'd be a fool not to go for some sort of close. Just
pull the trigger and ask her out.
This is as easy as it sounds. Now go out there and try it.
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