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By "encourage" I mean that I understand she can meet new people, not that especially tell her: "go and meet other guys", but I understand she might do it, because... duhhh - obvious reasons.
This makes no sense. What was the purpose of saying that you would outright contact her to encourage it?
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By WIN/WIN/WIN - I mean, best, coolest, most mature, most respectful decision. Which eventually as a consequence would have to be a win/win.
Walking away from the situation and not dwelling on it. She doesn't care if you walk away. Everything between you and her is just her being polite.
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And by contacting her - I never said that I'll contact her to let her know where I stand for her. More rather the opposite to get clear where she stands for me. I like talking with her I can keep it light and casual but I don't want to be the guy that serves as a life saving buoy. I doubt any self respecting man would let himself be in such position?
You already told her that you didn't want to talk to her on SPAM because of her situation. You told her that you didn't think it was a good idea to stay with her in France. You already let her know where you stand. Why do it again.
I understand what it is. You don't want to let go. You don't want to LOSE. It's a girl...and as one of my favorite posters have said, they make new ones everyday. Let it go...you don't need to contact her, see her, or do business with her.