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A girl I've been seeing for months I realised i wanted something more serious with. I know that you're supposed to wait for them to drop the "what are we?" but I made a decison like a man to go after what you want and what I wanted was to date her seriously. I'm of a mindset that it isn't what you say or do but rather the place it's coming from. And by no means do I believe I projected neediness.
Anyway she fought for reasons we shouldn't date more seriously and I fought for reasons we should. (most of my arguments centred around "a man worth his salt goes after what he wants, and you're that girl") plus, she knows I've got women constantly messaging and calling so I don't think it came across negatively.
So after she basically decided no, i pumped the brakes. Blocked her on all social media. And started responding to like 1/3 texts and answering calls.
She called the other night and we decided to hang out. It was 11 at night and we both had work in the morning.
We drive around, laugh and get food but she won't kiss me. I act unaffected and laugh, but keep pushing it anyway. She's holding hands with me while driving and has no problem with me touching her (neck, hair etc)
We get to the beach at like 2. I want to sit somewhere and she wants to sit somewhere else. I decided to sit alone as it seemed shit testy.
After 15 minutes she comes over and basically we start to walk back to that car.. She all sad and shit now and it's like this until we get back to hers.
We start talking about us and she's saying stuff like "you know I'm not ready for anything like that" which i think is total bullshit, from any woman. She wants me to unblock her because she says she can't see what im up to without calling me and that just leads to more connection. And if she doesn't know what im doing, she gets jealous and curious. She thinks it's unfair. I said "i told you i either wanted 100% or not at all" she says that's sad and that it's bullshit because she doesn't build connections with people just to have them leave.
After this back and forth becomes more emotionally heated (on her behalf, im remaining cool about it) she breaks down and starts crying. I hug her and tell her its going to be okay and stuff.. Then she gets out the car.. Inwalk her to the driveway and he have a big cuddle. I say in my most cliche moment "sometimes you just have to let go and say goodbye" she says "I'm not doing that" or something and storms inside..
Anyway. After talking to my sister about this i brought up casually that her friends thought i was scary and were worried about her with me and thought we shouldn't date. And as soon as i said this she said "that's it" I'm like "what?" she says "she wants to date but if her friends don't like you it won't happen"
Which leads me to my question..
How important are the friends really? Anyone have any experience with relationships and friends? And if so, any ways to resolve this?
OP, it aint her friends. You have multiple threads on this chick, and I skimmed them to remember the details. Its not her friends, nor is it that you asked her instead of waiting for her to ask. This chick has issues, but worse, you have been so needy and trying to make this work and form a relationship. Every thread....You're just WAYYY too needy for this chick.
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I'm of a mindset that it isn't what you say or do but rather the place it's coming from. And by no means do I believe I projected neediness.
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Anyway she fought for reasons we shouldn't date more seriously and I fought for reasons we should.
NEEDY.
Simple rule, if a chick doesnt want to be with you, dont fight for her to.
Okay, 2 of them are about the same girl, yes.. She literally won't let things die...
Last night she called me 50 TIMES! 50!
I finally answer (she's calling on a private number so i can't block her)
Basically she's confused that I love her but have her blocked on everything. I say our loves would simply be better without each other. I told her to take our current phone call for example, as she was balling her eyes out the entire 20 minutes. I end up hanging up because she's beginning to get abusive and making no sense... She then texts this after I Turn my phone off.
"Talk to me please"
"I'm not going anywhere" - response to me telling her to go away.
"This is all just making me so so sad. I miss you. It's because you promised me you'd never block me out or cut me off and you are.
I've never ever wanted to make you upset. I get upset knowing there could even be a slight chance I offended you, but this isn't the first time stressing me out and making me sad like this and being fine with it. I've been overdoing it and undersleeping and run down, I spent all of today with a disgusting headache and stressed and wanting to cry, and yet I automatically put trying to talk to you as first priority the past two days. It's messed up, I didn't even think about it. I clearly care about you a lot and don't want to lose you. And you don't feel the same.
And that stuff you said about that kiss was bullshit.
I'll see you next week when it's cooled down. I'm not going anywhere"
Does this really sound like I'm being needy here?