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Hi guys,
Hopefully this won't get me banned:I have another post where I ask why my ex gf (and many others!!)broke up with me via text.
It suddenly occurred to me, I'm not sure we have actually broken up - she just texted me: "you know what i want to say" and the phone call the next day, she was very angry, but then she did say she wanted to see me as friends and see how it goes from there.
I'm guessing this is either a breakup, or one of her crazy moods. This time though, shes not texting me aside from a few responding to me apologising.
A bit of background - dated 3 months (four times a week, quite intense, phone calls every night), 2 months together, one month she was on holiday.
She seems angry at me for being "controlling", but in my eyes, asking to hold her hand and cuddle more isn't controlling. I also took her virginity which she was saving, she willing gave that to me. She somehow seems to think i'm a player and chauvinistic. I'm not definitely not women hating - in fact I am a feminist!!
The first thing she did when she arrived in the airport from holiday was text me that message. She also says she's scared of me because I'm an emotional person (i've never hit her, or raised my voice to her - heck the most I've done is been needy like 5/6 times, where I moan about her not treating me with affection or like a bf).
I would like to persuade her to see me in person to break up, so at least I can learn for next time. Alternatively, if we are still together - then I would be even more confused. I have paid for a therapist to help with my moodiness (tbh its quite rare I'm moody but you know, inner game and all that).
I've apologised for my behaviour, blamed some meds I was taking, and also told her about the therapist. She seems to think the meds aren't related.
I guess I should wait and see - but I am curious why she would give me her virginity, but then go on to break up with me? I don't really hold out any hope, but it does occur to me that me jumping to conclusions is probabily a symptom of the lack of communication!
Sorry about the length, just trying to make sense of the situation, and to learn about girl's thinking for the future!
Thanks.
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Can you not see why the break up w you over text? Really? You want her to talk in person so you can convince her otherwise. Over a 3 month relationship. Its shitty if they break up with you over text...but I cant blame them when they rightfully assume you wont take no in person for an answer.