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Otherwise it is only a question of finding girls who you can hook up with and her not find out. Trust me. You will even subconsciously find them. I remember running into girls who were just visiting my town, or they couldn't tell anyone, and it's ideal and fun to know you're safe but then again, other than for the risk taking of cheating while in a relationship, it's best you are single.
Yeah, this is pretty much what happened to me.
Yeah I think that's probably the road most travel. You see, in a moral sense, we argue that the benevolence, or should I say health/happiness, of our partner is most important. It supercedes our own happiness, which we deny by having a moral character that we don't approve of. Yet, the answer is to forget about it to get rid of the ego pain caused by it. Then we don't tell them because it has no means to an end, which of course, it does. The point is that without honesty, we can't have justice. Without benevolence, we can avoid justice by denying honesty. In other words, we can avoid hurting them by being dishonest while also avoiding the repercussions of our actions. Yet, what ends up happening is that we use dishonesty as a means of avoiding justice and also hurting them. We can continue to indulge in these behaviors as long as the guise of dishonesty is possible. If we DECIDE we will be honest with our partners, no matter what our actions, then it's unlikely we will act in ways that will hurt them and therefore we won't have justice brought upon us. Without consequences to our actions, we will absolutely perform those actions. Without being honest with our partners, we will act in ways that would hurt them, and in turn hurt ourselves. Do you see what the cycle of keeping this a secret opens the door to? Be careful and realize that without repercussions, you are likely to act in ways that you know you can hide from them without punishment.