This sounds bipolar:
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She mentioned I don't show enough emotion. I know this is kind of true because other girls have said it to me as well. Does anyone have any tips on how much emotion to show and in what ways? I've read a lot about creating "emotional roller coasters" but clearly isn't something I'm good at yet!
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She was extremely intimate at the the start, crazy clingy and attached but it quickly changed! Why? I think because i started to show some more emotion. Things like hugging her more often then i did before, being overly touchy, noticing her more etc. At the start i didn't really care as much - she was the one chasing. But as i became comfortable i started being less 'alpha'. I thought i could let my guard down a little but that wasn't a good idea! However, that's only part of the issue here, there's a lot more to this!
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By show more emotion I mean the things I mentioned. But also as an example we'd talk more about our feelings (the serious talks). When we're out as a group my focus would be on her more than others and having fun. Early on I did none of this but as soon as I started I could feel attraction dropping.
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I want to give it another try but do things differently, more on my terms.
This is not "your" terms. This is you trying to fit into a box to keep this chick. First, you were going to show less emotions....now you're going to show more. You're not SOLID. You're reacting to her. All of this so far, has amounted to essentially saying "she sets the tone and rules for the relationship. I shouldnt have been so emotional, its too early...wait, I need to show more emotions because thats what she said."
OP, I told you she wont contact you when she said. I told you she'd say lets go slow. Told you she'd chase when you posted something that would make her jealous. Your actions are dictated by her and you're stuck in this reactionary cycle. You are setting up the same scenario that got you the chick; ie she chases. Thing is, she chased in the beginning. What are you going to do when that wears off again? If your feelings are less, why are you running to see her. I look forward to the updates, but this is heading down the same road as many other threads here. Despite what you tell her, she gets more evidence that she has you and you will move, and change your actions for her.