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Resurrection08
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 Posted: Sat Jul 19, 2008 2:04 am Post subject: Realising Your Destiny |
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Hi guys,
Over the last couple of weeks Ive tried to attract the opposite sex but as per usual my efforts were thrown back in my face.
All my life Ive been accused of being gay, people trying to make out that everything that has happened to me has been my own fault...Honestly how can fate make up for the time Ive lost...Life will never be able to repay me.
Well now Ive realised that its just not meant to be, every time I get close to a woman they just back away or give me some sort of lame excuse...Honestly Is life worth living when Ive been cheated out of a basic human right?
Makes me angry when Ive overcome so many odds just to live such a miserable life |
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George Best
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| Posted: Sat Jul 19, 2008 3:07 pm Post subject: relax and it will come |
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| hey man , it sounds to me like you are trying to hard . go back to basics , chill out and for now just work on opening and building bit of raport and comfort , dont worry to much about closing . once youve mastered the opening basics then try and add bit more to your routines . it may also be worth your while looking at your body language and being less direct with your approachs . hope this is of help . this is what i did and it worked for me . this pua stuff cn be info overload at times . keep[ it simple |
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VA.Flow
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| Chicks want a high value male. High value males don't bitch and whine and cry when things don't go their way. They forget their rejections and focus only on their successes. They walk into a set, and if for some bizarre reason they should get blown away, they walk away saying "that chick totally wanted my cock". You have to analyze why you are not that guy, and what you have to do to become that guy. |
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Devious
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I hope I'm not being too alarmist, but I have lost a friend to suicide before, so I just have to say that you must never give up on life.
You mentioned not thinking that life can ever make it up to you... I don't believe that is true for a second. How can having all the friends, fuck buddies, and hot babes you could ever want not be worth it? And even if you don't agree that it's worth it, it's a damn good consolation, no? Yeah, the road ahead is rough, but we've all been there to some degree. We can help.
Like George said, start small and you'll get there. It's not a question of if, it's a question of WHEN you will achieve satisfaction in life. You WILL get there, so don't quit.
Do PM me if you're thinking of giving up on life, or resigning yourself to AFC-hood forever. I bet I can change your mind. |
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Resurrection08
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The reality is though guys its been 25 years of my life, things arent going to change now if they were it would have happened a long time before now.
The longer it goes on the less likely it is to change. |
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LONEWOLF177
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| Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 11:04 pm Post subject: Hope |
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| I don't think that's true just the fact that you are here say you wanna make a change. Something that helped me was a book called "The Magic of thinking big" read chapter 2,12,13 and I yhink you will change your attitude. Also you cant change yourself overnight it takes time. |
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feff
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I'm 25 as well and all the girls I've been with has picked me up.
You gotta be outcome-independent if your gonna play this game. And your 25... You've got all the time in the world to learn.
Change doesn't happen over night, and if your not motivated it'll never happen. Take control of your own life!
Listen to this video first thing every morning while meditating, it really helps!
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Exile
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Hey mate you need to hang in there. First of all you I need to tell you that theres nothing wrong with you your just a victim of bad circumstance. If you want my honest opinion you need to give gaming a rest for a few weeks and take a step back to examine yourself theres no use looking at all this innergame and latest opener bollocks if you cant see the wood for the trees.
Now I don't know you so I can only make assumptions about you, but Its sounds that what you really need to do is work on your own confidence and self esteem. Judging by your post what you're thinking and feeling is very common and is a combination of what psychologists call all or nothing thinking and mis labeling. Your letting previous experiences and failures control your current state creating a self fulfilling prophecy. You believe because you havent been successful in the past you cant be sucsessful in the future which is a load of horse shit!
Basically you have had a serious of circumstances and events in your life to degrade your confidence and self esteem and develop negative behavioral patterns. which has led you to the opinion that you'll never be sucsessful with women, and until you correct these behavioral patterns no amount of gaming technique will help you need to give yourself a break and feel good about yourself.
Now the good news is that its not your fault you developed these negative behavioral patterns. And you can correct them! Now you may have had some major trauma to cause this but in most cases with people its a serious of very minor events that you have just been unlucky in that you reacted to them badly.
OK so heres what you can do about it! If you dont think its that serious theres a few books that can help and I posted a link to another thread by me. I have also posted a link to an Australian Website called mood Gym which is pretty good. THIS IS NON PUA STUFF Its just general self esteem and confidence building that once you got sorted will help your game a great deal. Now if you think its worse you might want to consider a thing called Cognative Behavioural Therapy theres several workshops and groups that can be attended or you can be reffered by your Doctor.
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Now I have a lot of experience helping people with stuff like this so if you want anymore advice dont hesitate in getting in contact with me.
Take it Easy Buddy!
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