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PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2012 7:37 am 
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The Fearsome Friend Zone

Hey guys, it is time for another important lesson about fundamentals of pick up.

Today we are going to talk about the fearsome friend zone (FZ).

It seems that most of the guys on this forum read about it in some book, thought it was a real thing (like the boogie man) and now you are all running around like headless chickens being really scared of this thing.
The FZ is not real! It is not a threat! It is just like the boogie man, it will only mess with your game if you believe in it!

Haven't you guys ever seen a romantic chick flick? The girl always falls in love with her best friend in the end. Girls in real life and in movies too, always talk about that they want guy to be their best friend and their lover, that is the perfect combination. And you sit and whine that you can't get laid if the girl thinks you are her friend? Come on guys! Man up!

The only reason you think there is a FZ is because some girl(s) rejected you once by saying let's just be friends. This doesn't meant that you are in the friend zone, this means that she doesn't like you, she doesn't want to be your friend, she just doesn't want you to hit on her anymore!
Sorry if I am harsh but someone needs to spill the truth!

If you really do manage to become good friends with a hot girl, then you are in the best position ever! Because now, she trusts you, and that my friend is worth gold!

At that point, all you have to do is be awesome and charming around her, be kinda cuddly in appropriate moments, act a little jealous if she dates someone else. And one day invite her home for a movie, sit in your bed, watch on your lap top and share a bottle of red wine. This has never failed me once!

A friend of mine (who is a girl) recently got engaged to her best friend since 13 years. All of a sudden they just became more than friends, so yeah, this is not a miracle. This is what girls want!

Word of warning though, do not think that you can befriend girls and fuck them once and then leave them. This will seriously break their hearts and damage them for a long time, there might be years before they trust someone again!
Remember to always leave them better than you found them, if you don't want a relationship with her you have to be mature and make that clear in a polite way, basically tell her let's just be friends (oh the irony).
If you swing it right you might end up with a best friend/fuck buddy. Now that's an awesome scenario!

So stop being afraid of junk like the FZ, it is bullshit that people make up to hide the fact that their game sucks!

Improve your game not your excuses!


Thank you sir! I agree with this completely.

All of my best relationships have started out as friendships and become more later. The combination of "Best Friend" and "Friend with Benefits" has been the most rewarding type of relationship I've ever had in my life.

Its very easy to move from friends to friends with benefits if the two of you are actually friends. If you're someone she trusts and whose company she enjoys, it is insanely easy. If you're her friend and you've talked comfortably about sex before, she's probably fantasized about you already. She trusts you and enjoys your company, so the basis of attraction is there. (Also, If she's into anything weird or that might make her seem slutty--bondage, BDSM, really likes giving blow-jobs, electrosex, wants to try a threeway, wants to be spanked--whatever it is, she's more likely to tell you than a new boyfriend or date, because you're her friend and won't judge her based on that one thing. She'll trust you not to freak out when you hear her fetish.)

Note I said Actually her friend: not the fool who she likes to have around because he's entertaining; not the guy she met in a bar, but decided she wasn't really attracted to after hanging out with him again; not the guy who she's shared a lab group with for 3 weeks who teases her and constantly tells her stories about how great he is at shit, and wants her to go out for coffee; not the harmless nerd who obviously has a crush on her, but she doesn't have the heart to tell off. These are the people she LJBFs, but they are not her friends.

"Lets Just Be Friends"="I don't actually like you--as a friend or otherwise--but I'm afraid of being mean."

And I'd like to echo Sly's warning not to befriend women so you can sleep with them once and not talk to them again. I've never had this happen, but for the love of god don't do it. First, Sly is right--you will break the poor girl's heart. If she's LSE already, you may give her trust issues, if not, you'll still leave her miserable and feeling betrayed. Besides, if you only want to fuck her once or twice, don't waste energy building up an entire friendship of lies. Just be honest from the beginning, manage expectations, and let her know what she can expect from you. Sly had a post on that a while back--he linked it in this thread. it was about morality and honesty in PU, and he said it better than I could.

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This stuff works. Good advice dude.


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This stuff is golden, and I'm pretty much just posting to stay in touch with new posts

Slywalker, major props for the post man


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Cool Stuff.


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@Moguishenti
I don't want to spoil the party but....
The 'lets just be friendzone' really does exist.
Once you are in a friendship-mode, it is very
hard for a girl to see you sexually. I've asked
girls about this out of curiosity how this works and that
is what I got back. It's also what I see all around me and
my own experience.

Of course it happens once in a while, but it is definitely rare.
Your changes are much bigger when you can keep somehow
some sexual tension while you built a friendship, keep teasing
her etc.

If it happens its great ! sex has so much more nice layers, its like
a good wine that has been ripen for some time. You already know
you like each other on different levels.

I think you are the exception...
If you have any tips tough....because I like wine :)


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Im far away from a professional in any meaning, but the 5 biggest things that has helped me improve to the level that I dont find picking up girls as "this big deal" I really had to sort in my life anymore was:

1. The biggest obstacle to overcome (really, just learn to control since it won't really go away) is the fear of approaching.

2. Don't pick up girls to feed your ego.

3. You can get away with alot more then you think you can.

4. Don't care about rejection. Learn from it, get to know why, but don't ever take it personal or think of it as a failure. Think of it as yet another step on the road.

5. Don't overthink things.


My 2 cents into this discussion.

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This is a slap to the bitch's ego (haha).

But I agree with what you say. Most of them are to be disposed and rejected.

Still depends on a girl's personality though. That is if and only if you go down deeper on your feelings than just picking up.


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This is probably the most genuine, highest quality thread on the entire forum. Would definitely recommend everyone who is starting out, to read this! Kudos to you Slywalker.


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Deffinately people should not overanalye women. They want to be piped


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This is probably the most genuine, highest quality thread on the entire forum. Would definitely recommend everyone who is starting out, to read this! Kudos to you Slywalker.


I agree.Need to make a pdf on this and read it every morning.

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I wish somebody taught me to ride a bike . :)


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I would like to know what exactly to do if I am in a fast attraction zone?
Which first impression should be the best?
Where is the best place in the world the skills are given?

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It definitely can be used to pick up university chicks bro. I wish I had this experience and knowledge when I was at university! All I did was go to parties and get wasted, and hope that I would go home with some chick at the end of the night.

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**************************QUESTION FOR SLY***********************************


Hey Sly. You have been a key factor in my success as a PUA and I am on my knees thankful for that. I do have one crucial question about your second lesson and will be very thankful if you have a chance to respond.

When I approach sets and meet new people, I imagine a passionate love making scene with my target. My question is, when should I stop this sexual state or should I continue throughout our whole interaction? And also if I feel there is no attraction between me and the target, should I keep having this mindset??

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Slywalker wrote:
Day2. With enough confidence you can accomplish anything!

This is one of those things you hear all the time but you don't really believe it.
One of the corner stones of NLP is "if one person can do it, anyone can" I personally don't really believe this is true, what Shaquille O'Neal can do in basket ball might be harder for me, I'm 5'11'' and he is 7'1''. So this statement might not be true in all cases..

But as it relates to pick up, it is pretty much true! You can use an amazing line, but say it with zero confidence and you have ruined it! And then you can use a really shitty or dirt simple opener like the Apocalypse http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/r ... pener.html and use that will a shit load of confidence and it will work like a charm!

David X, one of the most experienced MPUAs and probably one of the best, he says he doesn't use any tactics or routines, he is always honest to the girl. His simple thing is that he uses loads of confidence and he always frames himself as being the MAN!

The point I'm getting to is that what you say doesnt really matter, it is all about your delivery! When I was in Spain I picked up 2 girls who didnt speak English and I speak zero spanish, it didnt matter, I looked them deep in the eyes and just spoke my words from the guts, standing tall with just massive confidence!

You have to believe in yourself, you have to approach every set with the mind set that "I can do this!". Later on in this thread I will talk more about NLP and how that can help you improve your confidence!

When it comes to state of mind, this together with confidence are really the pillars of inner game. Every time I approach a girl that I intend to pick up, I picture myself making love to her, not having meaningless sex, no I mean deep passionate love, keep that picture in your head as you look her in the eyes and introduce yourself! She will notice something different about you, she won't know what, but it is there, she will feel it.
And you, you are picturing a perfect, passionate love making scene with her, you are both great in bed and everything just clicks, with this playing in the back of your head you will have the right state of mind and great confidence to play your game like a master!

Casanova himself would be jealous if he saw what went on in the back of my head 8)

Thanks for reading and keep checking out this thread, there will be more things coming up!



Do you really think the apocalypse opener works? It kinda seems like it doesn't actually work, but then again I can see how it might work too. Also, how would the apocalypse opener translate to a girl who's younger and not so eager to get laid, in fact might even be a virgin. Lets say I'm hanging around and I do this, I feel like because I'm underage this wouldn't work even if I was really confident, because younger girls tend to not want sex as much. So instead of " do you want to come home with me?" do you know of anything that might work better for me?

I'm pretty eager to try something like that out now actually.


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