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Now, I think a lot of this lowering attitude comes from insecure people, people that want to be in control, to have the upper hand, be at the center stage.
Ofcourse it comes from insecure people.
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As an example, my girlfriend was dating a guy on and off for a few months that was a total ass to her. Anyway, he didn't have his own place, neither did she, so they'd have sex in his car. She suggested they get a room to which he replied, "Not until you prove to me that you're worth it me spending the $50."
Why would she date someone like that?
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Now, I've noticed on this forum dudes giving each other the advice, make her qualify in front of you and don't put her on a pedestal. I think the same advice can be given to women. Just because he's a doctor, don't treat him like a God. Just because she's gorgeous, don't treat her like a goddess. That sorta thing.
Sure, it can be given to both men and women.
Pedestalization comes from desperation and neediness. And that's what a vast majority of people are - men and women.
Being the prize doesn't mean putting other people down. It means being aware of your own value and worth, and then filtering for people who rise to your own standards. Now obviously a prerequisite of that is actually having some value and worth.
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Ask redfrog about his legal issues with a particular woman who was actually interviewed by the news media. I won't tell anyone the accusations she's made but he did end getting convicted and spending some time behind bars.
He's also literally banned from the internet - by law.