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Being really offended or even sad when a chick flakes, is pedestalling women in a way. Like, honestly a chick cant really waste your time unless you're dressed and at a venue specifically to go on a date with her and she no shows. If a chick makes a plan with you, and before you even get ready, she flakes with a legit or false reason, whats the matter? If you dont go on a date your night is a waste? What does that say about how you spend your time? If a chick flakes on me, I'll do something else. It may involve another woman, it may involve friends, it may involve taking care of something. If you have nothing going on in life besides dates, then yeah it'll suck when you dont get a date, but thats your fault for making dates and women the only thing you can do. I'd just do something else even if its by myself, I have shit I could do. I was supposed to go to a friend's thing with some other friends and we didnt end up going because of poor planning. Was my night wasted? No, I did something else.
I know some may disagree, but I dont agree with the whole "text only for meetups" thing. Thats probably why alot of guys still get legit flakes. Personally, if Im interested in a chick, we're communicating beyond just in person. A text here, there, a tease there, a joke, something serious, I dunno. But if we have a date a few days away, I'm in decent enough contact with the chick to know how the vibe is going and whats going on in her life. So whereby a guy who follows the whole "text only to set the date up" thing, doesnt know anything, when he hears the chick say the morning of the date "sorry my sister just flew into town" and doesnt know if she's lying or not, I know 2 days ago she was talking about how her sister was supposed to come to day after the date and she prob just came early. The "text only for meetups" guy, just thinks he's getting a bs story and distances himself from the chick when its sincere, I have a better idea that things are still good and dont overthink it.
Neo, you are preaching the absolute antithesis of the Corey Wayne stuff that I spoke out against a while back. Basically this guy contended that a phone should be used for one thing: setting up dates. While Corey does have a lot to teach that is of value, I find his views on contact with women a little unrealistic.
Here we are in complete agreement. I believe that keeping in touch with a woman every day or every other day leading up to a date that is scheduled two weeks out is certainly not needy; in fact all you are doing is keeping yourself on her radar so that "her sister doesn't fly into town" the day of your date when she hasn't heard from you in 5 days.
The gist of his argument is that if you are always around and available to text a girl right back or are texting with a girl several times throughout the week, she will assume that you are simply too available, and that must mean that other girls aren't chasing yaou, therefore you must not be much of a catch.
I shit you not, that is the reasoning; but it is reasonably sound logic because the more scarce you make yourself, the more the girls do tend to kind of reach out... Is that wrong?
The number one Hazard is though, no joke, never allow yourself to be too available. Don't be ready on the other end of the line ready to take her call within the minute all day everyday. That does send a message that other chicks aren't chasing you and if they aren't... Why aren't they... Which leads to... You're probably not much of a catch. I've seen it play out in real life over and over and over. I'm with you on the sting on the radar thing so that the sister doesn't fly into town on the night of your date, but you got to be careful.