Yo guys, I have this issue that I struggle with from time to time so I could use some advice.
The problem is that I always want girls that are out of reach, when they are in reach i don't care.
Example 1: I had a really hot girlfriend but I didn't really care for her. It was my first relationship (I don't commit fast) and I remember thinking to myself ' this sucks, I tought having a girlfriend would be way more awesome'. As you can predict the relationship didn't last long because I didn't bother to invest time in it. However, at one point she started ignoring me / being short and I never knew the reason for it. When I broke up with her she didn't seem to care. At that point, I suddenly felt 'heartbroke' and I felt like I wanted/needed her.
So the thing is, I never felt anything for her and suddenly when it was over I felt bad about it for like a month.
Example 2: I approached a girl and after she was done working we went out together. We had a great time, dancing close etc. and then she told me she had a boyfriend. At that point she already had my number but nothing happened anymore. She texted me and I texted back ' if you have a boyfriend we shouldn't meet' because I tought it was the right thing to do.
After that; I felt bad for a few days again (until I went out and met others girls). And from time to time I would think about her.
This night she texts me 'I'm single , what are you doing at new years eve?'.
And today I find myself not caring about her anymore. I think it's because subconsiously I know I can get her (if that makes sense) but it's really weird how my feelings change so fast. Like yesterday I would think 'damn that girl was so hot' and feel bad about it, and today I don't think about it at all and don't feel anything towards her.
I know one solution for this 'problem' is meeting more girls because when I'm busy with other girls I never have these feelings. But apart from that, I would just like to know if anyone struggled with this before ?
Is this normal to have these feelings ? I know being needy is the most unattractive thing ever so I never act upon these toughts but still...
Any comment is appreciated