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imanewbie
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 Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 3:07 am Post subject: Problem with female wing |
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I got this female wing, she studies in another university course and knows tons of chicks. By some reason she phoned me at 12 pm, 2 days ago, I was not near the handy so I texted back around 1 AM, Ive texted cause I wouldnt say I had enough space with her to call her in such a time like midnight. So I texted a "hey wazzup and if I should call her" more to kind of check if she was awake and I was not waking up the whole house. She texted back saying that I shouldnt cause it was not worthy to call her since she is fat(true), ugly(false), and boring(false). So I got an easy way to buy time and texted back saying she forgot to mention 'clingy' (hope this is the right translation). And I went to sleep. So I phoned her during the day, like 7 PM, no answer, I look my handy now and again I have a call. Any procedures you would have in mind? Im not quite sure about what to do I dont want to piss her off since she introduces me a good number of girls  |
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mozyFresh
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Shit mate you fucked there did'nt ya. You got some making up to do.
To start:
She replied to your msg like that because she was probly upset because she could'nt get hold of you at 12 and was probly upset or feeling depressed before hand, by you repling 'you forgot clingy', it was like saying 'yes your right you are fat an ugly and so boring'. She was looking for some reasurance & for you to cheer her up. I think this girl likes you, fancies you, tell her you did'nt realise she was serious and appologize. |
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Roads
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| Right on mozy. Call, say you didn't know she was being serious. |
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slight
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| Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 11:00 am Post subject: |
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| No way dont say sorry, just ignore her she will come around. |
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imanewbie
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| slight wrote: | | No way dont say sorry, just ignore her she will come around. |
it happened before I call her she reached me on MSN, still not sure about what to do, i donīt like her except as a friend  |
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mozyFresh
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No dont ignore her, this would'nt help matters.
The first step is to apologize, send her a msg, something like:
'Have i upset you? Im sorry i did'nt realise you was serious when you sent me that message. Because your deffinatly not fat, your not ugly, infact very pretty, & how could you ever think of yourself as boring, we always have such a great time together when we go out, right? Let me make it up to you and we could go to ****.' And/or add whatever else you would feel would fit your situation |
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mozyFresh
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She should come around if you play it right. Make sure you have a quick friendly chat by phone before you see her and when you do meet her dont bring anything up, just act kinda chilled and as you normally would with her.
She sould'nt have a problem with only being friends with you if she cares about you that much and will be glad just to be in your company, an your sould'nt lose your pivot. But the problem is that she will become super jelous when she see's you other girls, so not the ideal pivot this one |
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Hobbit
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| slight wrote: | | No way dont say sorry, just ignore her she will come around. |
Don't do this. She's your friend, you treat her as such. One of the things about being an alpha is protector of loved ones. When they are depressed and come to you, you help them out. Not shun them until they get over it. Be the alpha male and protect her. Find out whats wrong. |
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slight
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| Shun them be a badass and that will get you the respect you deserve. |
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imanewbie
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| Oki I got again a tingle but this time is later it is 1 AM I will "pretend" ive lost this one. I will phone her tommorow and ask what is wrong. Again she isnt even sooooooooooooooooooo my friend. Since when I became her protector?:p |
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imanewbie
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| Got an SMS now 2 am she says she is abandoned what a hell should I do? Oki Ishall call her tommorow still I donīt grok this needness of my attention hence there was neversexual tension and Iīm not attracted to her and so far she never seemed to be really attracted to me |
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Cali Tripp
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| slight wrote: | | Shun them be a badass and that will get you the respect you deserve. |
Okay, first of all . . . she is a person just like you. You would NOT want someone you thought was a friend to treat you like that! If you do, then I REALLY feel sorry for you because obviously that means you don't have any true friends.
Yes, this chick was looking for reassurance. Maybe imanewbie was the only person she felt like she could talk to.
Yes, imanewbie made a mistake by texting her back that she was clingy as well. It did come across that he was blowing her off, but in a bad way.
Imanewbie, apologize, apologize, apologize . . . IF you TRUELY didn't mean to hurt her feelings. And just because she's texting you and looking to you for comfort doesn't mean that she wants to jump down your pants! Get past that! You can always set up boundries to how far you're willing to go with each other. She felt "abandoned" probably because you DID abandon her! You left her hanging with no one to trust or to talk to. At least, this is how I'm taking the whole perspective.
Just do what you think is right. Either ditch the chick and you lose her friendship plus all the other girls she knows OR make up and have fun!
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| Quote: | | Yes, this chick was looking for reassurance. |
Yes Cali your right see is looking for reassurance, you need to let her know she is clingy and its annoying. That she will loose you if she doesnt cop on.
Never say sorry ever. |
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Cali Tripp
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Slight, I guess you didn't even read the first part of my post. 
~Cali |
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imanewbie
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| Iīm gonna call her today around 11:30 PM :p this is the time she is calling me and Ive tried to call on afternoon with no luck, lets check what she has to say. |
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