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this thread
makes me sad
there is so much over thinking about a girl flirting, does anyone actually even go out?
you guys ever run into a girl who has a boyfriend, but is still touchy feely with you?, still friendly, still jokes and around and giggles, still loves it when you hit on her, but still won't go home with you, gives you her number, but still won't meet up with you?
nooo that's super rare *facepalm*... she must have mental problems or not like her boyfriend, or be looking for a way to cheat if she acted like that....
c'mon guys, get over it, girls flirt all the time, it's nothing new, it doesn't mean she is going to cheat, it just means she likes flirting and being validated by the opposite sex
now if a girl is actually meeting up with other guys alone, or going out to do suspicious shit (having random sleep overs at her ''girlfriends'' places all the time when she lives with you) , or acting weird when she has been up to something strange that she is trying to hide, like being overly compensating for something, or overly withdrawn... sure, look into it, where there is intent to cheat, there probably is a problem
but your girlfriend texting I LUV YOU
, back and forth with some orbiter that she never hangs out with, or having conversations with guys that have absolutely no sexuality or intent to meet up involved, really doesn't mean anything, if you got some phone numbers from some girls with boyfriends you'd realize this, they are most of the time.... a giant waste of time (at least until they are single, or their boyfriend does something so terrible they want revenge via cheating)
just because you have a girlfriend, doesn't mean you own her, and seriously, if a girl wants to cheat, she will cheat, you can't stop it, and wagging your finger saying, don't you go talking to other guys or trying to cheat on me!! is really not going to help your cause, more then likely it'll just encourage the behavior, unless you threaten to leave her, and you better hold true on that promise, cause she just might test the boundary
you either trust her, or you don't
and if you don't, then you should break up with her
Nope. I can get 95% of women to cheat...I am very good at what I do! I have a very keen understanding of the female brain, If I want a women 9 times out of 10 I will get her, single or not. I am one of the last guys you want hitting on your girlfriend! lol I am not saying this to show off, I am saying it because I have seen it first hand, most women will cheat if the right guy comes along.
Here is the thing, 99% of guys will fail every shit test your gf throws at them, they are beta, weak, and don't have a clue what they are doing! these guys make up the majority of men who your gf talks to, but it only takes one guy! a guy like my self or some of the other vet's in here are the kind of guys that sleep with your gf.
example of how I would initiate contact with an ex:
Me: Hey I was deleting numbers I have no use for anymore in my phone and came across yours, thought I would see how you have been before I delete it?
Her: Really good! and you?
Me: Amazing! I am actually going to be in town this weekend, going to jack's with some friends! you should come out?
Her: I have a boyfriend I don't think he would like that.
Me: Why is he against you having fun? I did not know having a boyfriend was a reason not go out? lol You and I know how to part do we not? bring some of your girlfriends as well!
Her: Yeah we are awesome aren't we (;
Me: Alright nerd Im expecting you there so don't let me down! Its going to fun!
This is just a general example of how easy it is if you can play the right cards, If you know what things to say, how to act ect ect....its really simple to be honest! done it a million times! getting a women to cheat if you know what your doing is easy easy easy! lol There are three things to know:
1# Convince her its your fault not hers so after she can say "It just happend".
2# Convince her that you don't think she is a whore.
3# Pay close attention to her emotions, and actions, play off these.
and when alcohol is involved as it often is you it does most of the work for you. Women and booze are a bad combo!
Picking up women in relationships is something I try to avoid, Morally it is a grey area in my books but to each their own.