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will it really be harder to get another lay out of her?
Not necessarily. It depends on multiple factors, but also you.
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I always assumed the first time making her cheat would be hard and then since it happened once it would be easier to happen again.
You didn't make her cheat. You can't make people cheat. She chose to.
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And another question what are the views on offering emotional support? Obviously I Know I should not offer 'BF comfort' but considering she says she has feelings for me etc could I not use that to my advantage for future lay attempts?
Look, it's simple. People cheat or start branching out when they're unhappy in their relationship, for the most part. They're looking for an escape or for better experiences. That's all you need offer.
You only need to be the cool guy, that doesn't bring stress to her life. Once you go down the road of emotional comfort she's bringing her problems into your "relationship". That also transfers over and creates drama to an otherwise clean slate. It will become draining and she won't associate you with the escape she's looking for, but with another burden. Her life will not get simpler with you, but more complicated. Nobody wants that.
Whether or not you'll lay her again is for you to find out. But understand that the more you try to take on the boyfriend role, the more you'll push her away. You didn't get with her by being an emotional tampon, you did it by being the exciting new perspective.
So basically I should just give her space for a few days (im away so no point messaging her), let her BF fuck up or w.e and when im back suggest a fun meet up and try again.
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