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 Post subject: Saying I love you
PostPosted: Fri Jun 23, 2017 4:05 am 
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Hi guys,

I have been dating this girl for about 6 months but its only been 1 month that we are officially in a relationship. I have already told her that I loved her, she haven't but when I say it she says ``Me too`` Tonight after a promenade I escorted her to her car. We started making out there and after a while I told her that I loved her, but I didn't received any ``Me too``, so I made out a little more and tried a second shot again she didn't say any ``Me too``. After that I broke all physical contact, she then started chasing to get back that physical contact. But I kept my cool without kissing her or anything else (no kino). I told her that she should leave cuz she had a lot to study since she has an exam monday. She claimed that she wouldn't leave until everything was cool between us. To force her to leave I reiniated contact to make her leave, she knew that I was doing it for that reason so she stayed for a while and then she finally left. About that she said that she doesn't know why she didn't say it that she should of say it. Moreover she said that for the I love you its because she is shy that she wants to say it but it doesn't come out of her mouth. How should I see that? How should I act from now on?


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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
PostPosted: Fri Jun 23, 2017 7:14 am 
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This is why I tell guys to let women initiate those kinds of talks. Because when guys do it, they often do it prematurely or out of context.

She doesn't feel as intensely, OP.

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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
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OP?

How do you think I should act from now on ? Do I stay the same cool, relax guy, dhv? Or I play alpha and tell that it's not tolerable if we are a couple that's not how you should treat the other person?


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OP means Original Poster.

What are you talking about, treating the other person? You jumped the gun. And then you kept pushing for a reply. That was a bad move. She doesn't owe you emotional validation if she doesn't feel the same way.
You're way more invested in her than she is in you. That's what you should be fixing.

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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
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I totally agree that if she doesn't feel the same the doesn't have to say anything. She often mentioned that I should know that she loves by her actions and that her saying it verbally is something more difficult for her. As of being way to invested I don't think I am. Other than saying her I
Love her. I don't text her constantly, I see her 2-3 a week, work a lot, hangout with my friends. How can I be less invested? Not telling her how I feel until she expresses herself if she does fall in love with me obviously.


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It may not even be that she doesn't feel the same way. She might love you, she might be scared of saying it. She may also not believe you love her as you haven't been a couple long. She probably wants more of a gesture and showing that you love her than you saying it.

Whatever it is, don't say it again to her until she says it to you

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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
PostPosted: Fri Jun 23, 2017 7:06 pm 
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johnk12 wrote:
Hi guys,

I have been dating this girl for about 6 months but its only been 1 month that we are officially in a relationship.



It took her that long to "have the exclusive talk" with you because you weren't acting like a dominant male.


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I have already told her that I loved her, she haven't but when I say it she says ``Me too`` Tonight after a promenade I escorted her to her car. We started making out there and after a while I told her that I loved her, but I didn't received any ``Me too``,


Again, we see why it took her 6 months to be exclusive with you. It should be 3 months, tops before a woman brings up exclusivity.



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I told her that she should leave cuz she had a lot to study since she has an exam monday.


Pouting.

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About that she said that she doesn't know why she didn't say it


Sounds like you asked her why she didn't say it. It sounds like you were really needy, and are leaving a lot of the conversation out.

some posters here like to give advice like "speak your needs". You did, and it was awkward as fuck. You cannot convince a woman to be with you, or love you with words. You do it through action, through your everyday behavior. You do it by focusing 100% on the moment, by being a fun guy (not a clown or prankster), being chill, slightly indifferent, emotionally-centered and great in bed.

If you truly want to keep this woman, stop being so needy and learn to enjoy her company in the moment. Live every day to its fullest.

Women are mirrors. They will respond to your fun nature, your positivity, and your kick-assness in bed with the words "I love you" sooner or later.

Most guys can't handle this. Which is why women do most of the dumping.

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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
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Normally I wouldn't have reacted but the fact that in previous dates when I was saying "I love you" she would say "me too". I over reacted cuz I was trying to understand what was the reason of this change of behaviour.


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OP, what does this matter? If you love her and you're telling her that then say it and let it go. If you're only saying it for her to respond echoing your emotions, you're just being insecure and needy for a woman that's in a relationship with you.


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How can you love her when you're admittedly not invested? Sounds like you are confused


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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
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johnk12 wrote:
Normally I wouldn't have reacted but the fact that in previous dates when I was saying "I love you" she would say "me too". I over reacted cuz I was trying to understand what was the reason of this change of behaviour.



I get it. Her saying only "me too" or not saying anything would cause insecurity, and a need to have her confirm her love.

But she's not into it as you right now, so just hang back and be fun.

She's not there yet. Mutual love is an organic process. You will never convince a woman with words to get there.

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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
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That did something wrong but that could help me. I looked the texts she sent to her bestfriend. She told him that she was waiting before we have sex another time. The problem is that I have had erectile dysfunction because of performance anxiety so she wants to make sure I can perform in bet. I haven't been able to solve that problem yet so I'm pretty screwed up !


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 Post subject: Re: Saying I love you
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johnk12 wrote:
That did something wrong but that could help me. I looked the texts she sent to her bestfriend. She told him that she was waiting before we have sex another time. The problem is that I have had erectile dysfunction because of performance anxiety so she wants to make sure I can perform in bet. I haven't been able to solve that problem yet so I'm pretty screwed up !


Man you got too many threads on this chick....that's a sign. You're seriously needy. Then you're checking her texts. And it's pretty fucked up that your gifs gotta wait for xyz to say something if it's true. This is done... youre too invested in making this work.


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