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She was continuing dialogue hard, and kept messaging me despite my unresponsive/careless replies. I had decided to give her another chance, and set up a rendezvous for after our Saturday night apart. (She even expressed excitement for this). Cynical me had an orbiter of mine ready as backup that night.
Too much texting. Makes you look like you don't have a job/passion.
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Everything seemed to be going as planned, and at the end of the night she even said she was walking over.
This isn't clear. You were on a date with her? Or you were out with friends, and she texted you at the end of the night she was coming to your place?
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5 mins after she claimed to be walking over, she texted that she felt sick again, and cancelled. (Thank goodness for the backup)
Lack of attraction. Or you weren't doing it in bed for her.
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I replied with "it was fun" and deleted her number, and ignored everything she sent that night. They were mostly just sadfaces, and apologies.
LOL at her apologies and sad face emojis.
I didn't like your response at all. You have to learn to be patient with 9's and 10's. "It was fun" is a butthurt reply and emotional, and the opposite of patience.
I assume you still would like to fuck the girl, but not make her priority. So this is how it's handled:
Her: I can't make it, I'm sick again.
You: Cool, I'm good either way.
Take her off that pedestal a bit, bro.
Or:
You: Feel better!
We both know the sick excuse was bullshit, and that's what makes that reply so effective. She knows you know it's bullshit, too. This is the ultimate "I'm good with it" reply in this scenario.
You did well by not responding to her for a week. Most guys could not handle not replying, and lose their shit emotionally, then get blocked, lol.
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After one week of no contact, I got a message from her out of the blue:
"Just wanted to put it out there that you are an absolutely awesome wonderful kind person.
Translation: You're too much of a nice guy, and I'm looking to be pinned down by a bad boy.
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I enjoyed every minute I spent with you, you make me feel alive, and wish tons of happiness for you
Sounds like a drunk text. Not a bad thing. The worst text is no text.
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You'll find the girl who's happy and healthy enough to keep up with your uncrushable spirit."
Big, red flags with this one. It's almost as if she's admitting she manipulated you and tried to crush your spirit.
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Despite many's skepticism, she really is an HB10.
Oh, I believe it. Sassy little diva game player who's been spoiled her entire life by men. You have to be the chill, indifferent, cocky guy.
I ran into a girl I have a crush on (my gf knows) where she tends bar. She's a stone cold 10. Absurdly attractive. There were a group of guys fawning over her, telling her life story "Hey Sarah, I made @2k in sales today" or "Wow, we really kicked ass today, the owner of the store came in, gave mea raise" etc, lol. Just verbal peackocking that any 10 with a brain will immediately recognize as nonsense and insecure.
I leaned into the dudes' circle and said, while pointing at her "Don't buy this bullshit persona she's putting on for you. This woman is trouble...there's a ninja behind all this who will separate you from your cash, and say anything."
They started laughing, and she turns to me, red-faced and punches her palm. "Sometimes I just want to fucking hit you, she says, as the guys continue to laugh.
Ten minutes later, she comes up to my seat at the bar, puts her hands gently on the table, and looks me in the eye. "I want you to break up with your girlfriend and take me camping," she says.
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Sex was great, and physically, she's a fucking unicorn for my "type". I fucked 3 other chicks since - an HB6, HB8 (my orbiter), and an HB7, and the only one who was half decent was my orbiter. HB7 was so terrible, she was sore within 5 mins of slow, steady stuff and was paranoid about me finishing on her afterwards.
LOL
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- What happened? (I agree with some of the posters, she probably had some other dick, and it may not have panned out for her)
Boyfriend or girlfriend combined with not quite enough attraction for you.
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- Why she decided to even send this message? (Is this guilt, or a plea?)
She cares. Sounds conflicted to me.
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- How should I handle this? (Ideally, I want to still bed her in the future)
Thanks for your guidance so far!
Don't contact her. Hit the gym hard every other day. Get some muscles going, date other women. See if she hits you back.
If she doesn't hit you back in a month, reach out via text, invite her over:
You: Hey, it's a Netflix beer night over at my place. You're welcome to join.
Your ability to cut her off for a month is a direct contrast with all the weak ass betas blowing up her phone constantly. She reached out to you, because she was thinking about you. Let her stew on her mistake a while longer. You're the prize.
If she declines your dominant, right-to-the-fucking-point text, then you say:
"Cool, have a good one."
And you continue seeing other women, and wait for her to hit you up.
This is how the game is played when trying to sleep with 9's and 10's. It requires absolute patience, the ultimate indifferent, yet kind attitude, and focus.
A 10 like this woman will have many orbiters: a guy they're fucking, a guy they might want to fuck, a guy they are sidelining, a guy they have an emotional connection to, but maybe not physical (sounds like you), a guy who she'll never sleep with, but she loves the attention.
All of these orbiters will organically fade away when she finds a dominant male. A dominant male is fun, chill, slightly indifferent, honest, a bit cocky, lets a woman do most of the talking, but is an absolute monster in the bedroom (not asking "which position?") literally dominating a woman in bed, and then making her orgasm. When you can do this, a woman will not tell you she'll walk over in "five minutes" and then cancel on you. She'll be madly infatuated with you, and want to see you, want to be in your presence as much as possible (usually like a snowball effect...a trickle at first, then more and more).
Your job is to pare way the fuck back on the texts with women. Use the phone for setting meet ups, and talk on the meet ups. Get the point, always try to keep things sexual and fun.