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Arch, quit lying. She was always too busy for OP. She had always not had him over. She confronted OP abt not walking her out after sex and now no sex. You're being dishonest or just silly if you think that OP saying he doesnt like something = her losing attraction. You keep talking about passion and good sex, guess what....OP fucked her twice and she cut off the sex. She wasnt cuddling. If you really believed all this good sex stuff, you'd at least say well the sex wasnt that good so she wasnt cuddling, hence why she cut it off. But no...it was the conversation.
Yeah, I'd say, based on the limited information provided, that was part of it. The better you are in bed, the faster they fall for you.
However, the OP still had opportunities.
Where things really went south was the phone call and "speaking his needs". That's not a lie. She went from hanging out, to not.
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If your goal is how do I FIND a chick that wants what you do, then dont be afraid to say what you want, drop the games and let the women who like you for you into your life.
This is bad advice. Keeping 9's and 10's in your life is an organic process, and Neo is framing it in a very impatient, needy way. Should the OP bring a clipboard with 20 questions on it so he makes sure the woman is "perfect" for him? LOL. Ummm....not how it works.
Attraction is not a choice. You don't choose who blows you away. There will always be imperfections, and most of the time two people have to grow into each other.
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I cant guarantee that being honest would have lead to her being your girl, or texting you more or having you over. What I can guarantee is if you were honest about what you wanted and not afraid of whether she stayed or left, you'd be in a better place. You'll always be a needy guy if you have this "how do i keep her" mentality.
He followed that advice, and got friend-zoned. So why do you continually advise it?
The "place it comes from" line of PUA advice is such a lame cliche. It means nothing. It's a worthless platitude.
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See how Arch is talking? "Chick was coming over and fucking you..what more do you want?" Like shut up and be happy you have SOMETHING. That's a begging mentality.
No, that's an ABUNDANCE mentality. It's the mentality of a man who doesn't need a woman to make him happy, because he makes himself happy. Picking up the phone a few meet-ups in and having a serious talk about "speaking your needs" is a beggar mentality.
A man confident in himself, who has socially valuable women blowing up his phone, and who's out enjoying the hell out of fishing or hiking or whatever, thinks to himself "Oh hell yeah, Sarah is coming over tonight. I can't wait to have fun."
And that's it.
He doesn't think "I really need to have a serious talk with Sarah about my needs".