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The main problem that I find with "be yourself" is that it's never taken as "be the best version of yourself" but instead, it's used as a justification for bad habits etc "well yea I text her 12 times today even though she hadn't replied, but that's just who I am! You said to be myself!" kind of thing.
Its a tricky topic and I dunno...there's a weird line between this stuff. Like "be the best version of yourself"...I'm ok with, but then again I see nothing wrong with "fake it till you make it"...which Ive always just taken as act the way you'd like to be until it's natural. Never taken it as to just keep pretending to be something you're not..because the line itself says "TILL YOU MAKE IT."
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you'll get your best results when you're authentic and decisive, and doing shit because you want to do it rather than doing it because Style told you to on a YouTube video or some shit, at which point it's needy and reaction seeking bullshit which only increases your investment in her and makes you act like a fucking weirdo...
I dont think being inauthentic makes you act like a weirdo...I think if you're a weird guy, you're a weird guy. Met guys who are inauthentic and they're chill..met guys who are authentic and they're weird. Your sense of natural sense of humor may be weird, your fashion sense may be weird, your movements may be naturally weird. Maybe even the best version of yourself is weird?
I dunno JD and Jack...this is a tricky topic and I honestly have no idea what the right thing is. How far does someone change before they're being inauthentic? How far can being yourself get you?
As a side note, ive thought of girl advice like this as just being a difference in objectives and options. A chick has more options, so her goals are different. She typically isnt thinking "how can I fuck and get as many men"...chicks mostly know they can fuck, hence they just want to be happy. So from a chicks point of view, being yourself is good because she doesnt want to or have to compromise her happiness over anything else. Its kinda like if you're broke and you meet a billionaire. If you ask him for advice, he's coming from a point of view where he's comfortable financially, and is more concerned with being happy. So he'll say something like "enjoy life" which you wouldnt understand because you're starving.