Hey,
first of all I'm not super experienced in dating but here we go
Talked to a girl that was flirting with me a while back, got her number. Everything went fine. She is 23 and I'm 26.
We scheduled a date to go drinking. Everything went fine except that I didn't escalate enough due to my inexperience but we agreed to meet again. She has lots of stuff to do, went home for the next weekend and got ill afterwards (which is actually true
).
Well we somehow managed to spontaneously set up a second date and went strolling through town. But overall the date kinda sucked because she was still ill. The second and bigger problem here was that somehow I completely lost my personality, most stuff I said probably sounded like I was saying it to make her like me, idk. overall I just wasn't myself and had very little authenticity. Well it didn't go well. In the end we hugged and went our ways without making any new plans
Well either way I kinda wanted to set up a another date after this and called her up the next day which she didn't answer. She texted me back later and I tried to set it up via text. She answered that she lost quite a bit of time the last month with her studies, will be busy for a while and will get back to me. It's not completely unbelievable since she is currently finishing school and works part time at a restaurant but still it's most likely a 'no thanks'.
Well I answered no problem and that she can get back to me when she got more time to which she replied that she will do that.
That was a week ago and I haven't contacted her since but we sometimes meet randomly, so I met her once and we small talked for a moment.
Can I recover from this and if so how?