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So i'm guessing you ask all the girls to come
back home with you on the same day you meet them? The ones that turn you down, do they usually agree to a second date? Why do you feel like coming on really strong in the beginning is a good
Idea? Can't any guy come on strong and display his intent to have sex early
On? How does this make you stand out at all?
Nah. You have to calibrate the interaction through compliance tests and escalation.
For instance, after the approach and opener, you flirt with the girl by looking deep into her eyes while thinking of sexual thoughts, brushing your body against hers by getting physically close and holding her hand. When she's receptive to those, you go for the instadate like this:
"The park just around the corner has some koi fishes. They're really awesome. Let's go." Then you tag her along towards your isolation venue. You get her some cotton candy. Get her talking. Escalate some more and then go for the pull to your apartment when you notice her getting horny.
"It's hot in here. Let's cool down a bit. I got some fresh strawberries at my fridge. Do you know how to make some strawberry shake?"
"Yes./No."
"Cool. Let's make some then. Let's go."
At this point, either the girl will come with you or back out depending on the situation. If she comes with you to your apartment, you're good. If not, you get her number and set for a day 2.
How do you stand out? Very few guys go for the instadate.
The key is to escalate hard, talk less, let the girl talk more, and bounce her to instadate venues that trigger good memories like coffee shops with strong coffee aromas, gardens, parks, and so on. You should also be very calibrated in your escalation to minimize ASD at the very minimum.
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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate
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