AFTER SEX STEPS



Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 5 guests
Post new topic Reply to topic   Board index » Tools & Techniques of Game: Meeting, Attracting and Seducing Women » Natural Game




Author Message
 Post subject: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Wed May 03, 2017 2:59 pm 
Offline
New to MPUA Forum

Joined: Mon Apr 24, 2017 7:43 pm
Posts: 20
Hey guys,

Long story short, two weeks ago I met a girl at a bar. We had three dates (drinks; dinner+plus drinks -made out-; and dinner at my place -sex and slept together).

So my question, in general, is: if you want to see her again, what do you normally do? My big guess is... treat her like you would treat a girl you don't 'care'; like you treat the other girls (those that if you don't see them again, you don't care).

Because if you treat her in a special way you might become needy (I have read several posts here like... fuuuck) and crazy.

Just text ocasionally and try to arrange another meeting.

What is your next move after you had sex if you wanna keep seeing her?


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Wed May 03, 2017 4:07 pm 
Offline
King Among Mortals
User avatar

Joined: Tue Oct 18, 2011 8:36 pm
Posts: 7564
Location: United States
It's been 2 weeks since contact? What did you do? Wipe your dick on the curtains and sneak out the window?

_________________
They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Thu May 04, 2017 3:11 am 
Offline
MPUA Forum Addict

Joined: Wed Dec 21, 2016 3:50 am
Posts: 201
tmv2026 wrote:
Hey guys,

Long story short, two weeks ago I met a girl at a bar. We had three dates (drinks; dinner+plus drinks -made out-; and dinner at my place -sex and slept together).

So my question, in general, is: if you want to see her again, what do you normally do? My big guess is... treat her like you would treat a girl you don't 'care'; like you treat the other girls (those that if you don't see them again, you don't care).

Because if you treat her in a special way you might become needy (I have read several posts here like... fuuuck) and crazy.

Just text ocasionally and try to arrange another meeting.

What is your next move after you had sex if you wanna keep seeing her?




Quote:
What is your next move after you had sex if you wanna keep seeing her


simple call her or text her.

Quote:
if you want to see her again, what do you normally do? My big guess is... treat her like you would treat a girl you don't 'care'


if you don't care about her then why seeing her again.?

Quote:
Because if you treat her in a special way you might become needy


you already are needy


if you want to see her again just do it and keep pounding her.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Thu May 04, 2017 7:24 am 
Offline
New to MPUA Forum

Joined: Mon Apr 24, 2017 7:43 pm
Posts: 20
Heywood Jablowme wrote:
It's been 2 weeks since contact? What did you do? Wipe your dick on the curtains and sneak out the window?


WTF dude? LOL I met her three weeks ago. 2 weeks ago 1st date. Last week 2dn and 3rd date. I guess it is my bad for not explaining better LOL.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Thu May 04, 2017 7:27 am 
Offline
New to MPUA Forum

Joined: Mon Apr 24, 2017 7:43 pm
Posts: 20
Quote:
if you don't care about her then why seeing her again.?


Normally, girls you don't care about come to you like puppies.

Quote:
you already are needy


WTF hahaha

Quote:
if you want to see her again just do it and keep pounding her.


I was just asking in general.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Thu Jun 01, 2017 11:32 pm 
Offline
New to MPUA Forum

Joined: Thu Jun 01, 2017 11:18 pm
Posts: 7
So, this is where 'pua' tactics can fail you honestly. You're still wondering how to play the 'game'. And honestly, after sex, you can't keep doing this chess game pua shit otherwise you'll end up losing her. This is the reason why a lot of newbies who learn to pull can only pull a girl for sex once or twice at best but can't keep them around because they have no idea what to do. For starters, you should have a life that you actually like. If you're not confident about yourself and where you're at in your life, it's going to be much harder to keep a girl interested in you. Secondly, honestly, this is where the 'boring' stuff comes in, which is connection and intimacy. You have to decide what you're looking for in your dating life. Do you want a girlfriend or just something casual? Well, if you want something casual, you don't end up hanging out with her every other night. You have to let it go where it goes to keep it somewhat natural, but you have to not let it go too far if you're not looking for something serious. If you are, then you let it go where it goes. If you feel like hanging out with her 3 nights in a row and it feels like the right thing in the moment, then you do so. See there's not really a hard core set of rules after you get laid, you sort of have to go with the flow, like a longer dance. But you have to guide the girl in the right direction of what you want. Casual or serious?
Most importantly, you can't play this 'I'm gonna pretend I don't care about her' bullshit mentality. It's for losers. If you care about her, you care about her. You don't have to be needy about it, but if you really like her, and you pretend to not like her in order to get her to like you, you failed. The ONLY reason guys who you perceive that don't care about the girl get the girl, is because they truly don't care about her, but not in ORDER to get her. Reread that, because it's really important. Don't try to play this routine of pretending not to like her in order to get her to like you. It's weak, and it'll backfire big time. It might work in bedding her and in the very beginning, but it won't work in the long run. She'll be able to tell you're bluffing and that in reality you're just too insecure to own the fact that you do really like her and want her. At the same time, I'm not saying you need to pretend you like a girl if you don't. If you don't care about a girl, then you don't care about her. But why would you even want to date a girl you don't care about? Sure it's easy, but easy girl usually aren't the ones we really want. You have to learn to manage being strong, confident, alpha and at the same time owning the fact that you want her. It doesn't need to be explicitly said, but it's more of an inner game thing that manifests itself through going for what you want. That you're *worth* having what you want. Be in that mentality. You're worth having what you want. Decide in what direction you want to go with this girl. Manage it. And then just learn to fucking enjoy it! You hooked up with a girl, more than once, so obviously she found something interesting in you. Now enjoy it.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Thu Jun 01, 2017 11:36 pm 
Offline
PUA Forum Leader
User avatar

Joined: Sat Nov 09, 2013 9:50 pm
Posts: 2809
Epic first post by TheLoveDr.

TheLoveDr wrote:
You're worth having what you want.

GOLD.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Tue Jun 06, 2017 2:40 am 
Offline
New to MPUA Forum

Joined: Thu Jun 01, 2017 11:18 pm
Posts: 7
oceanx wrote:
Epic first post by TheLoveDr.

TheLoveDr wrote:
You're worth having what you want.

GOLD.


Thx bro


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Sat Jul 15, 2017 10:38 am 
Offline
New to MPUA Forum

Joined: Mon Apr 24, 2017 7:43 pm
Posts: 20
TheLoveDr wrote:
So, this is where 'pua' tactics can fail you honestly. You're still wondering how to play the 'game'. And honestly, after sex, you can't keep doing this chess game pua shit otherwise you'll end up losing her. This is the reason why a lot of newbies who learn to pull can only pull a girl for sex once or twice at best but can't keep them around because they have no idea what to do. For starters, you should have a life that you actually like. If you're not confident about yourself and where you're at in your life, it's going to be much harder to keep a girl interested in you. Secondly, honestly, this is where the 'boring' stuff comes in, which is connection and intimacy. You have to decide what you're looking for in your dating life. Do you want a girlfriend or just something casual? Well, if you want something casual, you don't end up hanging out with her every other night. You have to let it go where it goes to keep it somewhat natural, but you have to not let it go too far if you're not looking for something serious. If you are, then you let it go where it goes. If you feel like hanging out with her 3 nights in a row and it feels like the right thing in the moment, then you do so. See there's not really a hard core set of rules after you get laid, you sort of have to go with the flow, like a longer dance. But you have to guide the girl in the right direction of what you want. Casual or serious?
Most importantly, you can't play this 'I'm gonna pretend I don't care about her' bullshit mentality. It's for losers. If you care about her, you care about her. You don't have to be needy about it, but if you really like her, and you pretend to not like her in order to get her to like you, you failed. The ONLY reason guys who you perceive that don't care about the girl get the girl, is because they truly don't care about her, but not in ORDER to get her. Reread that, because it's really important. Don't try to play this routine of pretending not to like her in order to get her to like you. It's weak, and it'll backfire big time. It might work in bedding her and in the very beginning, but it won't work in the long run. She'll be able to tell you're bluffing and that in reality you're just too insecure to own the fact that you do really like her and want her. At the same time, I'm not saying you need to pretend you like a girl if you don't. If you don't care about a girl, then you don't care about her. But why would you even want to date a girl you don't care about? Sure it's easy, but easy girl usually aren't the ones we really want. You have to learn to manage being strong, confident, alpha and at the same time owning the fact that you want her. It doesn't need to be explicitly said, but it's more of an inner game thing that manifests itself through going for what you want. That you're *worth* having what you want. Be in that mentality. You're worth having what you want. Decide in what direction you want to go with this girl. Manage it. And then just learn to fucking enjoy it! You hooked up with a girl, more than once, so obviously she found something interesting in you. Now enjoy it.


Amazing answer. Constructive. Useful. Thanks, dude.

Lately I have realised that there was a lot of things in my life and with myself that needed to be fixed. So I am already on it.

I cared about her like I saw some potential on her as a partner/couple/GF (as you wanna name it) but too much needy.

After that history, I texted her to hang out and she said was to busy. Two weeks later again. That was it. Ok. Not into me. Cool.

Learning each day and from EVERY chapter.

Thanks for your reply.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 5:46 am 
Offline
MPUA Forum Enthusiast

Joined: Fri Sep 23, 2016 4:27 pm
Posts: 74
The way I look at it is that the time, effort, and energy you spent on her before having sex should be relatively the same as after sex. A girl that you connected with over several dates/interactions deserves more of your attention and intimacy. A same night bang should not soak up too much of your time, attention, and emotional capital. Casual flings and FWB are somewhere in between. Typical you should strive to be congruent. Usually honesty is the best policy, so state your intentions. Women respect a strong man that shoots straight and doesn't play games.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 5:21 pm 
Offline
Read My Book
User avatar

Joined: Thu Jun 27, 2013 8:08 pm
Posts: 4969
Location: New York City
Lol

You don't have to treat her special or like you don't care.. Whatever happened to treating her normally? Treating her the same way you treated her before having sex with her? Isn't the treating of her that way what got you the sex in the first place? So why wouldn't the consistency of that continue to do so?

_________________
Need Coaching? For 1 on 1 Coaching via Skype, Phone or Instant Messenger - Email: EddieFews@Gmail.com

Show Support, Buy The Book: 'The Secret Laws Of Social Wisdom - Click Here

http://www.EddieFews.com


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: AFTER SEX STEPS
PostPosted: Tue Jul 18, 2017 10:02 pm 
Offline
PUA Forum Leader

Joined: Tue Mar 31, 2015 3:06 am
Posts: 2377
tomspidevegan wrote:
So my question, in general, is: if you want to see her again, what do you normally do? My big guess is... treat her like you would treat a girl you don't 'care'; like you treat the other girls (those that if you don't see them again, you don't care).


It depends.

If the sex was great, she's blowing up your phone within a week. If not, you're going to have to do some outreach, and perform better on the next meet-up.



Quote:
What is your next move after you had sex if you wanna keep seeing her?


You: It's Netflix and drinks night over here. Come on by when you're free.

_________________
Pickup coach. PM for direct, simple coaching.


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 12 posts ] 

All times are UTC


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  

Can we be honest?

We want your email address. Let me send you the best seduction techniques ever devised... because they are really good.
close-link