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PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 9:41 am 
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MY FAVOURITE OPENER TO APPROACH WOMEN ON THE STREET INDIRECTLY

So right now I want to share with you one of my favourite ways to engage
a girl in a conversation on the street indirectly.

So in the previous article I talked about the 3 ways you can talk to women,

1. Tell the TRUTH
2. LIE
3. OBSERVE & COMMENT


Now I want to share with you something that I've developed that works pretty much every time, and
it's based on the 2nd way of opening:

LIE.

But it's somewhat different because you don't really lie all the way, but you do lie in the opening
stage.

So what you say is this:

You see her walking, and you say this:

"Hey excuse me, can you help me with something, I'm looking for the nearest bus station...
do you know where it is?"


Now you wait and you let her do the talking.

Now most guys don't know how to change this into a real approach.

And after thinking about this for a long time myself, I came up with a simple
way to change "where's the bus station" into "I actually like you and wanted to talk to you."

As she's explaining it, you say this:

"You know I have to be honest with you, I don't really care about the bus station, I just
saw you from over there and wanted to talk to you..."


And you SHUT UP.

Now there are 2 usual response you'll get:

Possible response #1: A girl will smile and just walk away.

If this happens, cool. Let it go. Smile back. And walk away too.

She got a compliment, and you probably made her day.

Possible response #2: She'll smile and stay there for a second

In this case, when she smiles, you follow it up with these words:

"So what's up with you, where are you headed?"

Make sense?

Now, you may be asking yourself WHY it works to ask her for where she's headed at that point?

It's because by her smiling and stoping for a second, she opened the door to a conversation.

She invited you in a conversation.

Now you can continue the conversation:

She says: "Oh I'm off to work."

You say: "Really? What do you do?"

She says: "I'm an accountant"

You say: "Wow that sounds boring (fun tease)...(smile and pause)...how do you stand to be with numbers
all day?"


Now if you want to keep a conversation going, keep it up, but if you don't or feel unable to do so,
say this:

"Ok, well it was nice meeting you and I hope I made your day a little bit. Have fun!"

And you walk away.

CHALLENGE

I challenge you to try this out today. Go about your day, and as you see a girl walking or standing
in the street, open with this opener.

And as always, I want to hear from you - did you ever experience something like this?

Comment below or send me a pm - I answer to every one of them.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 10:35 am 
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FORGET ABOUT SEDUCTION - IT'S ABOUT BEING SOCIAL

So right now I want you to imagine you're a girl.

I know, EEEEEWW.

But just go with me here.

You're a girl, and you see two guys.

The first guy is cool, confident, but friendly. When you say Hi, he says hi back and talks to you.

You feel his energy of a confident person, and you naturally want to be around him.

As you're talking to him, he say, "hey, give me your number and we'll stay in touch."

Notice how you'd feel about giving him your number and hanging out - as friends.

Now imagine the second guy. He's somewhat stand-offish, reserved, maybe even slightly shy.

He talks to you, and asks you for your opinion on something.

You're like - Ok, I'll bite...but there's something fishy about him.

You talk to him, and at one point he says, "Hey, um, would you give me your number so I can
call you sometimes?"


What would you think to yourself?

Um, why does he need my number?

Now of course I am oversimplifying this, but you get my point.

When most guys start out, they think this game is about becoming a "seducer".

The PUA industry made certain that you live out the fantasies of the dark player and
playboy.


But when you step out in the real world, the guys who consistently get women, are
socially CONFIDENT guys, who are just out there, talking with people.


And sometimes, those people just so happen to be women.

There is no sneaky manipulative "pull her in" involved.

When I started out, I was in the same mindset.

I used to go out and get my shirt on, and get my player mode on, and try to be
all slick and suave...


Only to be met by REPULSION from women.

But when I shifted my mindset from "seduction" to "being a cool social guy" I
really hit a difference.

When I started approaching women in a natural, by-the-way attitude, and I ditched
my gamey approach, I started getting success.

"Hey I saw you from over there and thought you were cute, wanted to say Hi...what's up?"

And I'd just pick up a conversation from then on.

I was genuinely interested and curious about her. I wasn't needy, because I was coming
from a point of fullness, and not from a point of emptiness.

Answer this question to yourself right now:

Am I FULL - or am I EMPTY?

Really let this question sink in for a moment with you.

When you approach women, where are you coming from?

> Do you want to "get" them and their number, so you feel better about yourself...

> Or do you want to talk to them because you're genuinely interested in them?


I guarantee you if you make this one shift, your entire "game" will change.

ACTION STEP

So right now, make a commitment to yourself that from now you'll go out and talk
to women with the intention of expanding your social circle, and not with the intention
of "seducing" them or getting them into bed.

And as always, let me know - what are your thoughts on this? Did you experience a similar
shift?

Let me know in the comments below, or send me a pm - I answer to every one.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 11:10 am 
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MY FAVOURITE OPENER TO APPROACH WOMEN ON THE STREET PART II: DIRECT

So in the previous part I talked about my favourite opener to approach women on the street
without being direct.

In this part I want to show something for those of you who are feeling more brave to approach
a woman.

I want to show you my favourite DIRECT opener for the street.

So you see her walking down the street, and she's beautiful. She gorgeous.

She just the girl you want to meet.

You go there, and you tell her the TRUTH.

"Hey...(smile and pause, look at her and make sure she looks at you)...you know I saw you from
over there and thought - this girl is gorgeous...(pause and smile) - and if I don't walk over there to
say something I'll regret it for the rest of the day..."


And again, you SHUT UP.

Now shutting up is really important, because you're giving her the SPACE.

You've just said something, and now you've given her some air to breathe. Now she can
CHOOSE how she'll respond.

When you do that, you also show her that you're cool with her not responding well. You show
that you are comfortable with the tension that results from saying something like that.

Again, there are 2 possible ways a girl will respond:

Response #1: She'll be rude and bitchy.

Expect that this can happen. But in my estimation, one in a thousand will respond
in a rude way.

But expect it nevertheless. Don't make it a big deal about it, really just let it go
and move on.

Emotionally detach yourself from her response. Treat it like a Super Mario game, where
you're just treating any failure as "that's cool, let me do it again."

Make sense?

Response #2: She'll smile and be nice

Now this is a much more possible response. Very often a girl will take your ballsy
approach as a huge compliment, and will yield at your approach.

The reason why this approach works so well is because MOST GUYS approach with a:

"Eh, um, Hi, um...you look cute..he he"

When you approach her with an attitude that you know why you're there, you have the
balls to say that, and you're strong enough to be VULNERABLE to her saying no...

MAGIC HAPPENS.

So after you said this to her, here are the next steps.

You said your line to her (the truth) and now you proceed with this:

"So what's up with you, where are you headed?"

Now if you were to say this before the pause, she'd feel that she is obligated to answer
that to be nice.

But because you gave her the time to respond, and allowed her to invite you in a conversation
with her silence, she now feels much more open to talk to you.

Make sense?

CHALLENGE:

I challenge you to try this out. This one requires some more balls, but it will be a thrilling
experience for you.

If you feel short of breath, BREATHE man, breathe.

If you decided to accept my challenge and do it, write a comment below about your
experience, or send me a pm - I respond to every one of them.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 6:40 pm 
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Thank you for this guide! I will try to use it as good as I can

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 26, 2017 9:59 am 
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MEN GET INTERESTED BY LOOKS, WOMEN BY ENGAGEMENT

And no, I don’t mean like marriage engagement. I mean an engagement into a conversation.

You see for us guys, the most important thing (usually) is for the girl to be good looking. If she is beautiful, has a great body - or a part of it, we love it, and we’re interested.

But for women, the story is a little bit different.

Women actually find it very hard to just be interested in a guy based on his looks. Sure, a movie star fantasy can happen, but it’s only because they only heard that movie star speak and they feel they know him.

But it is extremely rare for women to be interested in a guy purely based on his looks. You can be outlandishly handsome, yet women won’t really fall for that.

This is a mistake that A LOT of guys make, and that is - they wait for a girl to give them a sign that they like them before walking over to start a conversation.

So they’ll wait for her to look at them. They’ll wait for her to smile at them. They’ll wait for anything before feeling good and confident about talking to her and asking her out.

But the reality is that women will get interested in you AFTER you engage them in a conversation. Based on how you speak with them in that moment, they will either like you or not.

I’ve approached countless women who at the first glance didn’t even notice me - but after engaging
them in a conversation, got interested.

I would open confidently, keep the conversation going with certainty and assertiveness, and voila - she’d start paying attention.

I don’t ask women do they want to go out with me. I LEAD them to the point where
their normal response would be “I would love that”.


How?

By ENGAGING them.

So let me give you an example.

A while ago I was walking down the street, a normal street where people usually walked after work…when I
saw these two really attractive girls walking.

They were clearly professional, wearing nice skirts, leggings with high heels at 4pm in the afternoon.

They looked like lawyers or professional women.

Now by that moment, they didn’t notice me. They didn’t pay attention to me. They didn’t care.

If I had waited there for them to make the first “move”, they would probably just keep walking.

I walked over there and ENGAGED them in a conversation. I said this:

“Hey girls, quick question. I couldn’t help noticing you look very professional. Normally I don’t see women
looking this nice at this time in the day, so I wanted to say Hi. Are you lawyers or something?”


They looked at each other, smiled and then said, “Well we work nearby, and we’re in insurance.”

Now, let’s analyse WHY this works well.

When I went there and said something. I had CONFIDENCE.

Most guys will just watch from aside and say nothing.

So women have A LOT of respect for a guy who can ENGAGE them in a conversation like this, simply
because it takes BALLS.

You don't really have to say anything much, just by engaging them you create attraction.

So by me walking up to them and showing I could actually talk, and even talk with CONFIDENCE… that differentiated me from most guys they ussually meet in clubs and coffee shops.

In other words…I got their ATTENTION.

Just this act alone can get you far. Just the realisation that women want guys to ENGAGE them
in a conversation can get you REALLY far.

So next time you want to talk to a girl, FORGET about seducing her.

FORGET about the B.S attraction 1, 2, 3 faze etc.

Focus on ENGAGING her in a NORMAL conversation.

ASK her QUESTIONS to show you’re curious about her.

Bring ENERGY into her day.

Ask stuff like,

So what do you do?

When she answers, ask: “Hm, interesting, what got you into it?”

Don't have the intention to "seduce" or play seductive, but make your intention in
socialising.

What you really want to be projecting under your communication is:

“I am a normal, socially cool guy who is here to SOCIALIZE and meet new people. I can have an intelligent conversation, I am not here to linger and smoother you because I have other stuff to do in my life. ”

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PostPosted: Fri May 05, 2017 6:41 am 
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*claps*
Yes! Thank you so much.
Read all of the posts &- great stuff!
Basic. Logical. Simple K.I.S.S method.
You defined exactly what thoughts were goin thru my head
I Kept asking or focusing on the wrong mental questions
I'm new on this board &
Will definitely be applying this tomorrow
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PostPosted: Thu May 11, 2017 11:50 pm 
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Blandman wrote:
*claps*
Yes! Thank you so much.
Read all of the posts &- great stuff!
Basic. Logical. Simple K.I.S.S method.
You defined exactly what thoughts were goin thru my head
I Kept asking or focusing on the wrong mental questions
I'm new on this board &
Will definitely be applying this tomorrow
Thanks again


Awesome man, appreciate the feedback!

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Thanks for all this. Terrific job!


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Yea this is all good stuff. You still have to be a good natural or have a routine of some kind to run though. Because worst case scenario is that the opener actually works great and she's like "I'm headed home." and you all of a sudden find yourself at a loss for continuing the conversation.

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 23, 2017 4:53 pm 
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BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

I'll keep this post short.

When you approach a girl, it's easy to get overflown by doubt and insecurity.

> Wow she's so hot
> She's out of my league
> Why is she talking to me


In that moment, it's SUPER important for you to BELIEVE that YOU, as you are right in that moment,
have something that this woman will like.

Something in you.

You don't know what, and that is why you need to BELIEVE it.

So for example, as you're talking to her, say to yourself,

"I believe in myself".

"I believe in myself".

"There's something she likes about me".


This in an internal conversation you want to have with yourself, that will make the
girl go:

"Hmm..there's something about him that I like...and I'm not sure what".

Believing in yourself basically means that you have the attitude, that this girl likes
something about you.


Make sense?

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below, or send me a pm if you have a specific
question - I answer to every single one of them.

Hope this was helpful guys, and right now I'm late for a date, so I'll catch ya later 8)

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