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Any suggestions on how to approach women despite having social anxiety
Approach women, despite having social anxiety.
Pretty much this. I use to be like you bro, and somewhat can still be cautious. Today though, my caution comes from thinking whether or not I have to see them again if my approach f#cks up. If I don't have to see them again, I go for gold; win or lose.
There are tips you can do to help yourself. First though, why are you anxious?
Fear of rejection? Unattractive?
If you fear rejection, don't. Treat it like sales. You may be told NO 99 times, but 1 time you will be told YES. Just keep at it. Each time you get rejected, analyse the situation and break it down. Why did I get rejected? What did she say? How can I work around what was said for next time?
If you are unattractive, my friend, come to realise that as teenagers the game is about pure physical appearance, most of the time. As adults, most of the time, the game is psychological.
The tips to get a bit more confidence:
- Workout bro, if you don't already. Even if you were say, overweight or skinny as fk, a big of training can make a few bumps that look good with clothes on.
- Get a nice hair cut. Find a style that fits your face well, and is in season. If you don't know which one, ask a hot hairdresser. They want the money, and you want the advice. They'll be honest and help out.
- Get some nice clothes. Bro, you don't have to spend a lot of money on this. Go to some cheap stores and find some threads that look good, and fit you well. Not too tight. Not too loose.
A nice hair cut. Some nice clothes. A couple of bumps under the shirt. Can do wonders for you bro.
One more hint. A few years ago, I had this good friend. He was really overweight and a bit of a "child" at heart. He did something that most guys would never do and would call gay as fk. He bought fake eyelashes and had them professionally put on. He had the motherfking eyelashes of a woman.
His eyelashes and his "don't care if I get rejected or not" netted him some beautiful girls at the club who we would take back to the hotel rooms. He married a gorgeous girl too.
Own it, brother!