I seem to talk the same sh!t on every approach in day game



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PostPosted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 9:27 am 
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Hi guys well one thing i've noticed about myself is i say the same shit on every day game approach. I only just started approaching during the day and never really had the confidence to do so. But anyway there was a few carefree topless/nude girls down on one of the beach today being cock teases to every guy there and everyone was just walking past ans sitting near them but just watching them so i thought fuck it ill go up and talk to them and hopefully not say my usual shit.

So i decide to approach two girls together instead one just one because i usually just go for the single ones and it's a habit i have to break. So i walk up

Me hi hows it going
her I'm good thank you
Me Are you guys from around here because i sense a accent
Her no we are from germany
Me T spoke some shit in german but i can't remember which made them laugh
Me So have you guys been here long
Her No
Me are you guys planning on heading up the coast?
Her Yeah we plan on going around the country

So then i end it with have a good trip because the pauses in the conversations were getting longer. I know i don't take the conversation anywhere but this is my problem i say the same shit over and over again even though i try to remind myself not to. So can anyone give me any advice on any good approach techniques?

One thing i've started on doing is approaching straight away and not lingering around.


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Why is there no purpose to your conversation?

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I know ive always been anti social as a tennager because of a undiganosed autism issue but that's no excuse. My problem is i just talk random shit and can't seem to find a reason to talk to them so i just dribble. I don't seem to have approach anxiety it doesn't bother me at all. I used to stall because i would be thinking of a reason to approach but now i try not to overthink it and that happens. I've been told by a few girls that im very attractive and i work out 5 days a week so i'm very fit and i have a lot of girls looking at me as i walk around everywhere but it's just when i open my mouth i suck. So i just need a few tips on how to improve my social skills with woman i can hold a convo with another bloke okay but not with woman.


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PostPosted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 10:24 am 
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That's because you have no purpose. Purpose should be to flirt, and form some kind of connection.

Random conversation doesn't lead anywhere by definition.

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PostPosted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 11:41 am 
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I agree with R.C on this one. You should have a purpose for talking to women. When I was full blown
approaching women during the day, I actually enjoyed talking to women.

I wanted to know everything about them, I loved them. When I'd talk, I'd ask questions about what they
do, what they study - why they study that?

I was genuinely interested in women, and wanted to spend time around them.

Women would pick up on that and just wanted to hang out with me.

So a good approaching technique is to be curious about women and about who they are, what makes
them tick. Ask open ended questions, and more questions with WHY.

A: What do you do?
B: I study.
A: Really? What do you study?
B: Law.
A: Wow that's awesome, what made you go into law?


Simply build rapport with them. When the time comes to build attraction, tease them.

Like this:

A: What do you do?
B: I study?
A: Really? What do you study?
B: Law.
A: OMG, you're the worst. Law girls are smart, but they're too smart, so they make everything too complicated...
B: But what got you into law?


And you keep going.

Make sense?

So the key is to be genuinely curious about them, and make the conversation fun by teasing them.

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PostPosted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:15 pm 
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Thanks for the tips, I never try to ask too many questions because i don't want to feel like i'm giving them a job interview so to speak. I've always thought you have to be funny and outgoing and not ask many questions but i do see what u mean i've had a few convos like this mainly at nightclubs and then i build such a connection with them i don't wanna pick them up

Example a few weeks ago i was clubbing and i approached a girl in the smoking area which is here i like to game because it's easy to start a convo without the loud music. But anyway after talking for awhile i found out she had a bf but kept telling me he treats her like shit and wouldn't come out with her and we really had a connection based on our conversations on random topics she even stayed when her friends were begging her to come and dance but i bailed out on even getting her number even though she asked for mine because i felt guilty about it. So maybe i need to be genuine but confidant and see how that works.


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PostPosted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:42 pm 
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Ok so I see what your main problem is. It's not that you don't know what to say
or how to have a conversation, you have some sort of guilt connected with having
power in the conversation.

Why not pick her up?

Why not give her the joy of being approached and picked up by a guy?

Why not take a number from a girl who's guy treats like her like shit?

Why not?

If you want to have any kind of significant success with women, I would highly recommend you
get it into your mind that women WANT guys to hit on them - but in the right way.

Women WANT guys to approach them - but in the right way.

Women WANT guys to ask for their number - but in the right way.

And finally, women WANT guys. Period.

You feeling guilty about it or ashamed because you're there and you want her number is not
helping her.

What guilt? For what?

I would suggest you play around with affirmations. For the next week, say this sentence to yourself:

"I have permission and I deserve to approach women, flirt with them, and get their number."

If you want to have any kind of significant success, you have to rewire your mindset.

I'll send you pm right now with some additional resources, but try this out for a week and see how it works
for you.

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Thanks you man I need someone to tell me what i'm doing wrong and you make sense. Sounds like i'm to negative on myself.


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Mikip2016 wrote:
Hi guys well one thing i've noticed about myself is i say the same shit on every day game approach. I only just started approaching during the day and never really had the confidence to do so. But anyway there was a few carefree topless/nude girls down on one of the beach today being cock teases to every guy there and everyone was just walking past ans sitting near them but just watching them so i thought fuck it ill go up and talk to them and hopefully not say my usual shit.

So i decide to approach two girls together instead one just one because i usually just go for the single ones and it's a habit i have to break. So i walk up

Me hi hows it going
her I'm good thank you
Me Are you guys from around here because i sense a accent
Her no we are from germany
Me T spoke some shit in german but i can't remember which made them laugh
Me So have you guys been here long
Her No
Me are you guys planning on heading up the coast?
Her Yeah we plan on going around the country

So then i end it with have a good trip because the pauses in the conversations were getting longer. I know i don't take the conversation anywhere but this is my problem i say the same shit over and over again even though i try to remind myself not to. So can anyone give me any advice on any good approach techniques?

One thing i've started on doing is approaching straight away and not lingering around.


Hi

I have Aspergers (Autism) too and understand exactly what you are going through; way more than anybody else on this thread.

All I can say is to take small incremental steps to improve your conversational skills not just with women but general people; progress to different aspects of socialising once you feel consistently confident with the basics and dont forget to analyse your approaches at the end of each day in order to detect where your relevant strengths and weaknesses lie!

Chin up mate; I believe in you!


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