What if I apologize to her and not ask her to come back or anything? Would that increse the chances of her coming back in the future?
Prince, my gf once showed me a text exchange between herself and an ex-fling (and that's all you were with this girl, a fling). She had sex with him maybe 7-10 times. After a few months of him not contacting her, he offered this:
Him: Hey, I just want you to know I'm sorry, I kind of fucked up. I'm not trying to get you back, but you should now you're one-of-a-kind.
Her: I have to be honest, this text made me uncomfortable, I feel the apology was unnecessary
. I don't know if you're trying to clear your conscience, or get back together, but either way I'm not interested. I wish you the best!
What's the moral of the story?
You were not with this woman long, and if the sex was amazing she wouldn't of dumped you so soon. She simply doesn't have the kind of investment that requires an apology from you. It is seen as excessive and unnecessary, and will squarely put you back in the category of needy/emotionally-uncentered.
But go ahead, OP. It seems you are just searching for answers that you want to hear. Go ahead and text her and try to arrange a meet. But don't say I didn't warn you.
And even if you did text her, even if you DID go that route, why in the fuck would you immediately go right into having a Debbie Downer talk, which is why she BAILED on you in the first place?
You can't get out of your own fucking way, and it's infuriating to watch.