Heywood Jablowme wrote:
You're only in the 'Friend Zone' when you choose to be. The friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a sexual relationship, while the other is not aware or just does not.
If you never make a move, or take a risk she'll never be aware. That's choosing to be in there.
If you DO make a move, and she rejects your advances yet you remain in the friendship, you again chose to be there as well.
Does this mean profess your undying love? NO!
Don’t scare her away.
You HAVE to let her know you are attracted to her.
Express your sexual intent and attraction all you want.
That is perfectly fine.
But, don’t let her know you want more than that.
To do this you need to know how to flirt with women.
I haven't put her on a pedestal either, it's not like I'm obsessed, I always fancied her but I was aware she was in a relationship so tried not to hit on her much out of respect, and never being sure what was on her mind either.
I call bullshit. You're contradicting yourself, after writing a mini novel asking "How to get her", you can't turn around claim indifference.
Your goal shouldn't be "How do I form a loving relationship with her?"
It NEEDS to be "How do I get in her pants?".
Thanks for your answer. Although I haven't dated many women, I do have dated some. I was actually going out with one last year but I decided to dump her after a while haha.
The only reason I'm making a thread is because of how weird this situation is. If she had been available from the beginning, I would have obviously flirted hard and I'm sure we would have gone out already, or she would have rejected me. Either way our relationship would have been different.
I'm asking for advice because this situation is different. Usually I approach, talk for a while, get number and date. But here, we were just hanging out at a social meeting (even her bf was there but didnt seem to pay attention) and this girl was obviously looking for my attention. She gave me her number, texted me, talked to me at university, etc. Then we had alone time and all. I did show her many hints in our conversations and at the party (everybody realised what was going on) and again, I had the feeling we would have been making out that night if it weren't because of her bf.
But suddenly she's free and I must go from fun conversations to going out. I wanna know what's the best path and schedule to go for this. Thanks.