I just went on a 3rd date (The 1st date-cycling+ice cream
The 2nd date was at a tea shop two weeks ago).
The 3rd date was at a cafe and It was our first time at that cafe and she always wanted to go to it as she heard good things about it.
Kill. Me. Now.
When we arrived, I was slow to choose a seat because I didn't know what was on the other side of the cafe. I directed her to the other corner of the cafe but all the seats were taken so we returned to the main area. She ended up choosing a table that was wide. This made it difficult to lean in as we sat across each other (mistake). When in cafes where the table has a large gap between the two people, how do you kino escalate? Where's a better place to sit?
Dude, stop taking her on these kinds of dates, and stop worrying about this kind of nonsense. The size of a table...really? Here's what you should be worried about:
Some random phrases I remember:
Her: "I play the flute"
Me: "That's cool. How long have you been playing?"
Her: I play the flute
You: I bet you are good with your hands then....
Her: talks about volunteer work she does
Me: "You're a really smart/good person. People like us should stick together"
My friend, that is terrible. Just terrible.
Her: I volunteer.
You: I volunteer too.
Her: Really, where?
You: I take sexually frustrated girls out on dates and try to help them (make sure you smile or laugh on this one)
Me: Do you like passion fruits?
Her: No I hate passion fruits . I like strawberries.
Me: It tastes slimy?
Her: gives me weird look
Are you really talking about fruit, man? think about this for a second.
I had no idea how to make these statements/questions flirtatious. The conversation topics we had did not allow me to use any light touching. Where could I have incorporated it?
I just showed you.
I maintained strong eye contact. When I leaned back, she leaned in a little bit closer. When I leaned in a little bit, she leaned back.
Where do I go from here? Any posts/products you recommend? My weakness appears to be in making the conversation more sexual/flirtatious and finding opportunities to kino escalate.
Your weakness is not flirting, and lame venues.
Text her this right now:
"We're going to Bar X tomorrow night for drinks. I'll pick you up at 9."
Damn those are good.