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PostPosted: Tue Dec 27, 2016 12:22 am 
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Everyone says be less needy. From articles to videos to forum posts...but they don't fully explain HOW to be less needy. I don't wanna sound like a whiner but what if you don't have much going for you? How are you supposed to not be needy?

What if all the action you've gotten in the last four years was kissing a bunch of drunk girls at parties and your confidence is at an all-time low? What if people you thought were your friends only talk to you for school related things and when you text them about grabbing a beer they either ignore you or reply a day later with some shit excuse? What if no one ever texts you or cares about what you're up to on weekends and you spend over 90% of your Friday/Saturday nights alone in your room playing video games and jerking off to Pornhub?

I just don't understand at this point. I have interesting hobbies. I'm not socially retarded. I do have kind of a polarizing personality but I'd rather be outspoken than boring. Am I just bad for whatever reason at forming non-superficial relationships with people? I'm definitely needy in every way even though I do a poor job of trying to hide it. Because I don't have much to fall back on. I want every interaction with people whether it's trying to make friends or hit on girls to go well cause those opportunities don't even come up often for me.

Should I be trying a different strategy? Learn to accept my biggest fear which is loneliness? I see a lot of advice directed toward when you're feeling like shit that says go hang our with buddies or vent to a friend but it doesn't work when you don't have any.


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There is no magical pill for getting rid of neediness, neediness will eventually fade away when you start to have success, this will take time and effort from you.

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PostPosted: Tue Dec 27, 2016 2:00 pm 
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it means you cant focus on one woman, calling her out every day, texting her double texts every time she is not responding to you...

i think there is no need to continue, just be cool.

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PostPosted: Wed Dec 28, 2016 5:59 am 
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AltaiDuckq wrote:
There is no magical pill for getting rid of neediness, neediness will eventually fade away when you start to have success, this will take time and effort from you.


I know but how do you get that success when you've had nothing but failure?

Hello.Sonny wrote:
it means you cant focus on one woman, calling her out every day, texting her double texts every time she is not responding to you...

i think there is no need to continue, just be cool.


I do get one itis, but I never call everyday or double text. I know what it means to not be needy, I just don't know HOW to not be needy.


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Have in mind that there is always another girl and go meet few other girls,invest in yourself more then you would in her,you're doing it for you,not her


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PostPosted: Wed Jan 18, 2017 3:26 am 
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Toss out the video games and become more involved in literally anything.

I think neediness is generally a result of being bored or dissatisfied in general.

You say you have lots of hobbies? Spend more time doing them. And if need be, get more of them. Take a class, go outside, take a trip etc etc.

Next time you feel the need to crowd somebody with your neediness go on meetup.com and find the closest rec dodgeball night and go play. Seriously, I have a predisposition to neediness as well which is far worse if I'm just bumming around my apartment. Get out and do literally anything.


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PostPosted: Sat Feb 04, 2017 4:20 pm 
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I had the same problem, I was needy as fck.

What I did:

I study how to be an alpha male.
I have a lot of things to do. I'm a busy man. I found my passion and I working every day for getting my goal in this life.

My main priority is not getting the girls. My main priority is to get what I want in this life. I want to open my own company and get a lot of money and freedom. I try to respect myself. I'm not getting any bullshit from anyone.

Just study "law of attraction" and "how to be an alpha male" and start to living as an alpha male.


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PostPosted: Thu Feb 16, 2017 9:37 am 
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One of the most important things to understand about not being needy, or letting go is that it's a PROCESS.

It's not a one time thing where you just do it and be done with it. Neediness is like an internal enemy that
keeps coming back, and you have to deal with it on a daily basis.

And one of the best ways to "not be" needy is to remind yourself that there will ALWAYS be another girl that you
can talk to.

I'm really surprised as to how guys have this idea that if this ONE girl that they're talking to leaves, they will
never find another girl again.

So the way you stop being needy is by letting to of the girl you're talking to, and allow yourself to understand that
there will ALWAYS be another girl.

I made a video on this topic a few years back, I think the content is still right on point. So I hope it helps you.

Good luck!


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