Hey! so classic deep friendzone scenario.
She really likes me, we have known each other for more than half my 24 years alive, she is one of my closest friends and i've had a crush on this girl since i know her. But its more than that, i dont say this lightly, she is the only person i know that i actually would love to have a relationship with. A serious, commited, alll in relationship and eventually the whole 9 yards, diamond ring, walk down the aisle, saying yes in front of all our friends, honeymoon, kids, growing old together. Because i dont just like her, i admire her personality, how she carries herself, her cleverness, her drive, her beauty, her elegance, i see her and my day gets brighter. And this has happened for years, i've had other girlfriends and she has had boyfriends, but the feelings never go away.
So since i broke up with my ex a few months ago this friend and i started to talk more, and my other friends knowing that i've always liked her started teasing me about it. So one thay i was attending a stand for my company in a tradeshow, and my friend came to see me at the stand and we spent like 2 or 3 hours just chatting about random stuff. i asked her point blank if she would go out with me and she said no, made it very clear, and even though i pushed a little bit more telling her exactly how i felt about her, that i would much rather spend one hour with her than 10 hours with other random girls, i just got rejected.
We kept talking, i went for a 3 week vacation, and when i was away we texted, and i tested the waters with some playful comments, like for example she commented on how amazing it was to travel like this and etc, and i answered that this was nothing compared to what we could accomplish toghether. she was like lol you went too far hahaha and i was like im sorry its just that this thoughts about you keep coming up to me i cant control them
. She was like ok control them cuz nothing is gonna happen.
So we talked very little after that, and a few days ago she text me like heyyy! you have me all forgotten here how are you? what are you up to? and so on, really nice and energetic, haha i fucking love this girl. I know no means no but i just cant give up without doing all i can, because the is one of the rare ones, and she will be in my life forever, either as a friend or as much more than that. i just want it to be the second one.
Any advice on getting a long time very dear friend to fuck you even after repeted no's?
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