If you see her you should act totally cool and continue escalating.
Most guys get thrown off by how women behave around them or what they say to them, but a real man, knows how to keep composure in spite of this.
Whenever you have the opportunity, escalate.
Even if she didn't return your call. Even if she flaked. Even if she said you're just a friend to her.
Or that she has a boyfriend(well maybe not then, depending on your principles).
HOWEVER, escalate in a
respectful,
self-confident way. Don't force kiss her, grab her, grapple her or do whatever shit people get convicted for.
How do you escalate? Be fun, bring positive emotions, flirt, tease, kino escalate until you get very touchy with her etc.
Here is a a kino escalation ladder presented in a more theoretical way, so you get the idea:
http://www.slideshare.net/vhie130501/16 ... tionladder
If you escalate right you can turn girl from neutral to interested.
In order to escalate right, you have to neither come
-> too strong, by being too pushy, aggressive or sexual too fast, or
-> too weak, by not flirting, teasing or getting sexual at any time.
You have to find the right balance.
So, how can you learn to escalate right? This comes with experience.
It's like lifting weights or learning to play the guitar. At first you'll be bad at it, but in time and with perseverance you'll get better.
This is why I advise you to approach other girls. In order to build much needed experience with escalating.
So when you see this girl, act cool, pretend like nothing happened and immediately begin to escalate.
Thanks for the link. I'll have a read over that and see what I can learn and what I can use. What you've written is exactly what I did wrong on my meetings with this girl. I was too weak. I think I'm OK with the teasing aspect, could be better of course, but OK. However, me flirting is poor and I'm bad at moving things to make them sexual. If the conversation leads there, I tend to change the subject. Which in turn displays my inexperience and is surely eliminates any attraction that was there previously