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 Post subject: What did i do wrong?
PostPosted: Tue Jan 10, 2017 7:35 am 
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Hello,
So i'm really new to this and decided to try approaching a girl in a night club. first off, i went to the club alone cause nobody was willing to go. so i was just standing next to this beautiful blonde girl and i started talking to her, you know, the usual questions. I kept thinking she wasn't interested in a short ugly dude like me she was a solid 10 so i was a bit hesitant while talking to her. But she seemed to still hang around after 5 minutes of me talking about nonsense so i decided to buy her a drink. after that we went back to talking and i asked her if she wanted to dance. Now i'm really terrible at dancing and my body was stiff and i had terrible eye contact and i felt like she kept moving away from me to dance somewhere els. anyway after a while she just left and i was left alone lol. Later that night i saw her with another guy and felt great regret. i've been thinking about this nonstop and its bothering me how can i let it go?
Can someone tell me how i could've done this approach better? i feel like i shouldn't have asked her to dance since i'm terrible at it. i'm trying to improve my game and i'm still very stiff and awkward how can i improve? :D


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 Post subject: Re: What did i do wrong?
PostPosted: Tue Jan 10, 2017 7:59 am 
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I kept thinking she wasn't interested in a short ugly dude like me

If that's how you describe yourself to us, that's how you non-verbally describe yourself to others. I'm pretty sure "guy who thinks low of himself" is hardly on a woman's priority list.
If you don't like your outlook go to a stylist and get a haircut to compliment your head shape/face.
Buy fitting clothes and dress overall better.
Subscribe to a gym.
And accept your height for what it is. There's plenty of girls shorter than you or of similar height.

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Eros369 wrote:
she was a solid 10

Stop putting women on a pedestal. I get it, she's hot. So what? that alone makes her a goddess to be worshiped? Before she even opens her mouth?

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Eros369 wrote:
so i decided to buy her a drink

You decided to buy her attention for a bit longer.

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i asked her if she wanted to dance.

Don't ask. Take her hand and go to the dancefloor.

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Eros369 wrote:
Now i'm really terrible at dancing and my body was stiff and i had terrible eye contact and i felt like she kept moving away from me to dance somewhere els.

Then why did you decide to dance? And it should be obvious that eye contact is important.

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Later that night i saw her with another guy and felt great regret. i've been thinking about this nonstop and its bothering me how can i let it go?

I'm not saying this to offend you, but that's pathetic. You bought a girl a drink in a club, then saw her with another dude. And now you act as if you witnessed your fiancee sucking some guy off in the middle of the dancefloor.

You need to work on that frailness. Women already own a pussy. They don't need another.

PS: Congrats on taking the club alone. And also for actually approaching.

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 Post subject: Re: What did i do wrong?
PostPosted: Tue Jan 10, 2017 8:04 am 
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Quit second guessing yourself. When you're with a girl, never question if she's interested or not. Keep pushing forward until you meet resistance and adjust accordingly. What you're doing is being so unsure of yourself that you don't get out of that "nice to meet you" moment and she's going to sense that that's all you have to offer.

EDIT: And what RC said.


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 Post subject: Re: What did i do wrong?
PostPosted: Thu Feb 02, 2017 7:48 pm 
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Hi, there! You did a few huge mistakes!
1) You have put her on a pedestal by thinking about yourself as "Shit, short" and she is hot and very beautiful!

Solution: Your mentality has to be: I am good enough and I want this girl but I do not need her! - otherwise, it is an attachment to the outcome. Plus, being a beautiful girl does not have to be enough for you. What about how feminine she is, maybe she smokes weed and stuff like that. Always look for the internal!

2) Never buy a drink for a girl, that is a huge mistake!She is not your girlfriend! What you did, was "I am trying to convince her that I am a nice guy and she will like me then ". Remember !! Women are emotional, not logical. Your value is your behavior.

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 Post subject: Re: What did i do wrong?
PostPosted: Fri Feb 03, 2017 6:55 am 
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One of my favourite ways to let go a situation that went sour, is to go out again as soon as possible,
and start talking with a new girl.

Talking with a new girl is like turning a new sheet of paper - Blank, and ready to be written with you
new experience. She gives you new energy, new situation, and the memory of the last approach that
you did will slowly fade away.

Most guys do that one approach, they naturally suck at it because they haven't done them enough,
then they fail at that one approach, then they beat themselves about it - and then they quit.

They get this fear that "it's going to happen again" and they spend their time analysing what went wrong
etc.

You don't want to do that. Approach the next girl - and it will probably go sour again. And that's OK. You're
learning, so give yourself that time to learn. Fail, fail, fail, fail - and then fail some more.



So maybe it's better that you don't waste your time lingering on this one situation, but you go and talk with
a new girl. And with time, you'll get better automatically.

If you find yourself being nervous around a girl, I invite you to join my test group, and build your confidence
around women.

Good luck.

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