Lately I've started turning my relationship around. I have tried to become more of an active leader when we are together by planning dates, what we do, etc. Currently we are long distance due to work and school stuff, but we should be back together around spring time. Gives me time to focus on me anyway. I have come to a hurdle that I need some help getting over though...
My gf is a typical Type A personality and I feel it's a huge challenge for me at times to lead on smaller things because she's so pushy, and nags about small shit around the apartment (i.e. She'll get annoyed when the toothpaste is in the wrong spot). On top that it's pretty normal for her to delegate, issue "orders", etc. She always tells me "do this, clean up, etc." around the house and shit.
How can I turn this dynamic around?
You can turn this dynamic around by starting in the bedroom. Calibrate first. After sex, does she voluntarily make you breakfast or get you a glass of water? If not, then your bedroom skill might be lacking.
Test where you are when it comes to her sexual satisfaction IF she is NOT doing any nice thing for you after sex. After sex, ask her: "Babe, make us some coffee."
When she replies, "Make the goddamn coffee yourself," or something similar, you have a lot of work to do in improving your bedroom skills.
If she happily complies, you're good. Say 'thank you', fuck her real good again and ask her to do breakfast. Condition her on the regular to do nice things for you. Start in the bedroom and progress from there.