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PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2016 7:23 pm 
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I'm 35 met a 28 year old girl that I really liked. I'm not a bar or club goer, so I meet women at work or online or through friends. I'm successful at Fuk closing after 2 dates but can't seem to keep anybody around more than a week or two! last time I was in a serious LTR was YEARS ago! the last dozens of girls I met and slept with didn't even interest me to think about LTR with them until I met this last one. I really wanted to go LTR and even marry her from the beginning, even though she wasn't the hottest girl I had been with:

My cousin introduced us. She didn't seem interested at first but we talked about intelectual things and by the end of the night she didn't want to leave me. She asked to hang out soon!

Next day I took her out on a date, had an amazing time and we kissed passionately. Made out for
hours.

The day after that took her out again and we had amazing sex after an amazing date.

The day after that she texted me a few times asking to see me. I was really tired so told her that I had to go to bed early because I was working the next day. She said ok but was a little upset.

The next day we saw each other and hooked up again.

The day after that she said she was going to a party ( i think shit test, but I initially passed) I said great since I was invited to a party myself. She texted me late that night asking if I was having fun at the party. I said I wished she was there. Later I called her and she offered to pick me up since I didnt want to drive while drunk.
She picked me up we came to my place and had sex again for the 3rd night in a row. She left later that night but never texted me when she got home. (as she normally would have done) I called her the next day, no answer. Called again after 2 hours, answered said was sleeping. I said I would go pick her up for lunch she said she couldn't. I insisted a bit but finally said ok. She said let's see each other at night. I said OK.

Up to this point every time we had to end our date she would beg me to stay more, seemed she was falling for me.

I felt she was getting cold and distance at this point so I panicked. Called my cousin, who had introduced us (she is her friend) and had him call her. She told him that we've been seeing each other every night and that may be too much and cause attraction to fade. She texted me that night saying that she was gonna hang out with friends (even though we were supposed to see each other) I said cool have fun, but then I panicked and called her a few times with no answer. I called my cousin asking to call her. And I think this made things worse. I went to bed and after a few hours woke up and saw her missed calls. She came to my place with my cousin and stayed a few hours. We had sex then she left. The next day no calls or texts. At night I called her she answered and said she would call me. No calls just texted me "what's up" with no "babe" or other pet names that she would normally use. I ignored that text and waited 2 days. After 2 days texted her "how are you babe" no response until the next day from her texting: "sorry been sick, sleeping. what's up?" no pet names or anything, totally cold.

Now, I think how I screwed up started when I abandoned the party I was at to see her, then having my cousin call her back and forth instead of communicating myself like a man. AND expressing too much interest and eagerness in seeing her and being with her.

Is there anything I can do at this point to salvage the situation? should I respond to her text? what should I do??? I know you pros will say it's oneitis, but I had not considered having LTR with anyone in over 10 years. And this one I really wanted LTR with. Please help!


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2016 7:32 pm 
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LOL!!
Bro you're too clingy which is why you suck at LTRs.

Back off. Why are you blowing up her phone, and the. Forcing her to hangout with you??? No dude, just no.

Keep the phone for light hearted stuff but then get to the point. "When are you free to catch a drink" make a definite date then get off the phone, and don't blow up her phone in the meantime LOL. Just wait it out and you'll see each other in person.

Quit acting clingy bro. "Omg she didn't say babe" dude relax. Just back off a bit. Since obviously you don't know the line of clinginess and being a zombie, just use the phone for setting definite dates.

Also. Quickly change your mentality from "omg I want a relationship with this girl blablabla" to "Let's hang out, have fun, and hook up!"

Be positive bro.


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2016 7:42 pm 
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Bro you're too clingy which is why you suck at LTRs.

Back off. Why are you blowing up her phone, and the. Forcing her to hangout with you??? No dude, just no.

Keep the phone for light hearted stuff but then get to the point. "When are you free to catch a drink" make a definite date then get off the phone, and don't blow up her phone in the meantime LOL. Just wait it out and you'll see each other in person.

Quit acting clingy bro. "Omg she didn't say babe" dude relax. Just back off a bit. Since obviously you don't know the line of clinginess and being a zombie, just use the phone for setting definite dates.

Also. Quickly change your mentality from "omg I want a relationship with this girl blablabla" to "Let's hang out, have fun, and hook up!"

Be positive bro.
I agree that I acted clingy, that's why I need advice. I never blew up her phone really, but did act needy and clingy otherwise. If you read the whole thing I wrote, my question is this: What should I do now? Should I respond to her cold text? Since she says she's been sick I don't think I can ask her to hang out. What do I do right now?

BTW you sound like Corey wayne! :wink:


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2016 8:03 pm 
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LOL!!
Bro you're too clingy which is why you suck at LTRs.

Back off. Why are you blowing up her phone, and the. Forcing her to hangout with you??? No dude, just no.

Keep the phone for light hearted stuff but then get to the point. "When are you free to catch a drink" make a definite date then get off the phone, and don't blow up her phone in the meantime LOL. Just wait it out and you'll see each other in person.

Quit acting clingy bro. "Omg she didn't say babe" dude relax. Just back off a bit. Since obviously you don't know the line of clinginess and being a zombie, just use the phone for setting definite dates.

Also. Quickly change your mentality from "omg I want a relationship with this girl blablabla" to "Let's hang out, have fun, and hook up!"

Be positive bro.
I agree that I acted clingy, that's why I need advice. I never blew up her phone really, but did act needy and clingy otherwise. If you read the whole thing I wrote, my question is this: What should I do now? Should I respond to her cold text? Since she says she's been sick I don't think I can ask her to hang out. What do I do right now?

BTW you sound like Corey wayne! :wink:
Mother fucker is this my brother?? LOL!!


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2016 8:05 pm 
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if she's sick say something like "Sorry you're feeling sick. When you're feeling better lemme know!"


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 25, 2016 11:22 pm 
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Don't you have any other interest in life that is more important than the girl you're dating?

Your problem doesn't lie in wrong tactics or strategies. Obviously if you can bed girl pretty soon it proves my point. I think your problem lies in lack of hobbies, passion or some other form of activity that makes the girl you're seeing priority n1 which then makes you clingy as fuck thus making you less attractive and pushing her further away.

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PostPosted: Mon Dec 26, 2016 1:21 am 
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Don't you have any other interest in life that is more important than the girl you're dating?

Your problem doesn't lie in wrong tactics or strategies. Obviously if you can bed girl pretty soon it proves my point. I think your problem lies in lack of hobbies, passion or some other form of activity that makes the girl you're seeing priority n1 which then makes you clingy as fuck thus making you less attractive and pushing her further away.
No, I really don't. I go to work and sleep after work. On my days off I watch a movie or something lame. Nothing really interests me. Don't get me wrong. I have tried EVERYTHING there is to do. But i enjoy nothing. I can bed wen easily because I'm an interesting guy to talk to and have an intelectual converstion with. But that is not interesting after a few encounters. I enjoy nothing more than the company of a woman I like. And that doesn't happen very often. I still have a couple of gorls that would show up to my place in a minute if I called them or something. But this last one I really liked amd came on too strong and fucked it up.

I amswered her text with a funny video referencing a movie we had watched together but no response in the last 5 hours.

I really want to re attract this girl. Any advice? Thank you.


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