well it seems nobody is giving a fuck about this thread anymore, but here goes:
yesterday and today i did another rounds of the noob challenge.
Try #2 , yesterday.
I went round my city, and i approached a pack of 2 girls, they were like 16 or whatever (im 19 so dont think im a pedo or whatever), I managed to say Helo (in a very robotic, weirdo kind of tone, i know i sounded retarded) they didnt really seem to listen tbh, once i did it, i felt a huge invasion of anxiety over my whole body, and then i started to feel extreme happy... it was amazing.
So in my way home i crossed with a pack of 2 girls, around 19-21, i managed to say Hello in a informal way (I speak portuguese we have a lot of Formal, an casual forms for the same words), again i noticed i sounded a bit weird / retarded'ish, But i didnt really care, i felt i jsut gave the first step of a infinite ladder, where the first step is the hardest one. one of them looked at me scared\ confused, but i kept going like nothing happened.
Then when i was going to my grandfathers house to ask him some money , i passed round a cute girl, between 16-19, no idea, she looked very mediterranean, she was looking at her phone totally hypnotized, then i said in a formal tone (and also more confident than the previous 2) Good Afternoon, she looked at me a bit scared but i kept going.
try #3 , today.
I went to a park in my city, a really huge park, where a lot of ppl gather, and i passed around a pack of 3 girls, not really hot, but who cares. And i said "Hello" in a weird way ( I think i have to work my acting skills ) but i noticed it was a bit better than yesterday.
They didnt answer, actually they stopped talking whatever they were talking between them, and kept going, and i heard them "Laught" at the distance. I didnt really care , i have total awareness i sounded ridiculus, i am just confronting my approach anxiety, then i will focus on stoping to sound retarded.
yea, thats what makes me feel - is this the really right thing to do. I think some people think of me as retarted when I say hi out of nowhere.
But I was doing it anyway, also had skype friend who was motivating me to do this. It was maybe like 2 years ago already. I did like ten times or more. When I got girlfriend, I stopped doing this stuff, because I believe she would not like that I am aproaching other girls.
But I now use oportunities to say hi when it does not feel retarted, for example in shop with cashier. Earlier mostly I did not say back hi to the cashiers, because its not their real hello, its just because their work asks to tell hello. Now I sometimes even am the firsts one how says hello to the cashier.
I was practicing in the streets. In the mall, I did not feel good, maybe in the street bigger space and fresh air make me feel better.
And when I was doing so - I was often not too loud so often they did not pay much attention. But sometimes I got hi back. Mostly from older people to who I am not having as big problem to say hi.
If I say hi to a hot girl, then I think she thinks I am wanting sex with her and also she thinks - "stupid one, not hot and wants sex with so hot as me".
But old people definitley not thing that I want sex with them. Probably then they try to remember who is he
and then think their memory has gotten worse because of age
Now I have been broke up with my girlfriend at june 2016, so more than half year. I was so sick of those girls, that I do not have motivation. I think - whats they point to go and say hi, if it will end same again - I find a girl, then have relationship, then break up and during relationship - waste time with boring activities. With last one during 9 months I did not make her want sex with me
only good thing that I had oportunitiy to practice talking. And also I had to meet with her sister, and I had never met with girlfriends sister. Probably with brother would be even more dificult, if he is some agro. I had only met with girlfriend mother but not for long time, just to drive her and girlfriend to hospital, so did not have to talk much.
So now, I am thinking I still should not stand where I am at and probably go to say hi again to random people. After so much time gap, it will probably again be hard, not saying that back then was too easy.
And if not for girlfriends, at least for making friends - to make friends I need social skill also.