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PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2016 11:42 pm 
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Hello guys,

Damn I have no idea where to start over here.. Lets just say I am a 20 year old guy who is a virgin, never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, never been kissed and the list goes on and on..

I recently graduated from university and before going I was imagining this is it, I will finally lose my virginity, finally get a date, a girlfriend etc.. but nope, my whole time there I didn't even get anything, not even a kiss, a date or a significant other. I am feeling really ashamed because I feel like I have missed out so much on my youth life, never had those kind of high school or university relationships, never even had a significant other that I could talk to. I hate to think that my schooling life is over as there will be less opportunities to get a girlfriend or meet other girls in the future, because in my opinion a great way to start to get good with women is in your last few years of high school and in university also.. agreed?

I was also most recently on a cruise holiday along with a group of school students who looked to be on their last year of high school, (17/18 years old) and a lot of them had someone to talk to, a lot hooked up with each other and it just made me reflect back in my life and think damn, I never got that kind of shit when I was that age, I have missed out so much on my social youth life.

I guess you can say I have been suffering from social shyness and approach anxiety my whole life and I seriously don't know what to do.. Every time I see a beautiful girl that I want to approach, I just can't get myself to do it, because of my social shyness i'm not able to do so.

And because the fact that I never experienced any of these kind of things in my life, I tend to stare quite often at attractive girls and I get the kind of vibe that they notice it and it creeps them out, A LOT, and I don't like that feeling of me creeping someone out. And even though I try to not stare its pretty difficult because I am that thirsty for action. And last but not least HOOOOOLY SHITTTT, I beat my meat waayyyy to much and I have no Idea what to do..

So I just want to know if someone went through a similar experience to me and what they did to overcome it? I will appreciate all your comments.

Thank you so much,
Luis


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 Post subject: Re: Please Help! :(
PostPosted: Sun Jun 26, 2016 3:25 am 
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Welcome Luis

I can relate exactly to how you are feeling. Very similar to my past.

I guess you know you HAVE to approach women at some point, that's the only to have full control of who you meet or else you are the mercy of getting lucky one night

My 1st suggestions would be to:
- Wipe the board clean
- Get a makeover
- Meet people from this website at the local meet ups
- Make friends with the good guys

If that doesn't really work too well for you, I would suggest for you to pay for a boot camp. This is what I did. Having money on the line is a great way to force yourself to approach. I don't give the boot camp all the credit but it seemed more of an escrow that if I didn't push myself, I would have lost all that money for nothing. After the boot camp, I came back to my hotel a new person. I would be looking at girls that I knew I could approach her I wanted to, I obtained my social freedom, finally.

Now I can honestly say that meeting women are not even a slight issue for me anymore.

Make a journal, find mentors, invest into your education, watch youtube infield videos, be immersed, work on yourself inside and out, hit the gym, meditate, anything. Make sure every day you do something at least adds to your attractiveness.

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 Post subject: Re: Please Help! :(
PostPosted: Tue Aug 02, 2016 8:01 pm 
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Find your identity, find out who you really are what you really want in life, and get it. This helps to keep you focused and aware of your surroundings, which is necessary for pick-up. Find a hobby and do some exercise, read books on topics you like. Travel, cultivate yourself. If whatever little thing you do has a sense of purpose, it will give you the confidence to do everything in life, even meet women.

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 Post subject: Re: Please Help! :(
PostPosted: Tue Nov 01, 2016 2:55 pm 
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You might change a new look to be more confident. Taking part in a student club is great! You can meet lots of people and communicate to them more. Or finding a job is not a bad idea :)


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 Post subject: Re: Please Help! :(
PostPosted: Tue Nov 08, 2016 5:20 pm 
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I have also started out in pickup from a dark place, with social anxiety, panic attacks, depression, and the standard approach anxiety (all of these things). But it is possible to get out of it. I'm living proof. If you read my posts..you can see that i made alot of improvement on myself and came a long way from the dark place that i came from before game..even though i still have a long ways to go (glass half full). The reason why i like doing pickup is because it's part self-improvement, part dating advice, and part seduction art (covers all basis of self-development and a vast wealth of knowledge). The way to solve your women problem, is actually by not relying on women to solve them for you, but to work on eradicating your inner demons little bit by little bit everyday..while immersing yourself in the things that Dragula mentioned on this topic. Women can't solve your pain for you (TRUST ME), no matter how many of them that you fuck. The same pain that you felt throughout your life, before you start bringing women into your life..will still be there deep down inside of you, until you address those issues. Multiple beautiful women will come into your life in time, but women should only be an addition to you becoming a more awesome you. You are the pound cake and the icing, and women are only the cherry on top..and not the other way around. Learn and teach yourself to love and accept yourself, and to add value to others 1st, and seduce women 2nd.


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 Post subject: Re: Please Help! :(
PostPosted: Thu Nov 10, 2016 8:35 pm 
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I find that the guys that struggle the most with social anxiety tend to be chronic masturbators. The majority of people in psych-wards are also.. chronic masturbators.

Give up masturbation for 90 days and you may find one of the major solutions to your problem. You can't do it? Then you don't actually want this.. You just want to bitch about it and vent on the internet. Give up the porn and you'll grow out of a lot of it.

And try this quote on for size during process:

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“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”

― Og Mandino

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 Post subject: Re: Please Help! :(
PostPosted: Sat Nov 19, 2016 7:28 pm 
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Maybe this guide would help you a lot:
approaching-and-opening/complete-and-ultimate-guide-overcoming-approach-anxiety-vt199834.html

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