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PostPosted: Thu Aug 13, 2015 9:07 pm 
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I'm not sure if this topic is meant to be in this thread, but I've heard my siblings talk about speed-dating and not once has this idea crossed my mind. What do you guys think of about it?

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 13, 2015 9:32 pm 
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Why not?

Its an experience.

I've never done it, but i'm always up for new experiences and the opportunity to get a few new stories to tell.

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 13, 2015 9:38 pm 
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I've done it. Was fun.

2 mins per table.

Look your best. Be vibrant and happy. 2 mins isn't long and it's mostly physical (since - how much can you learn in 2 mins anyway?)

When I went it was 30 bucks and you got 2 free drinks. Worth it.


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PostPosted: Thu Aug 13, 2015 10:07 pm 
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I went.

Most of the hot girls were just not sexually available and just friends of her fat friend who is sexually available.

I got more matches when I just cold approached in the street.

I'm gonna avoid speed dating. But that's just me. However my bro did get a nympho out of it

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 14, 2015 2:44 pm 
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I guess it wouldn't hurt to try something new. I've looked at a few sites that hosts these events in NYC and the meets between 2 people are 2-5 minutes long before the partners switch. What can be done in such a small amount of time?

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 14, 2015 2:59 pm 
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Well in the 2 times i've done it... I was with a group of friends and it was more social than anything... Kind of fun... Lets you experiment with a lot of different openings and banter.

What can be done? Not a whole lot! That's why I said it's largely physical. If you're physically attractive and don't say something dumb in the 2 mins you get, the girl will likely select you (and if you select her as well, you match).

Not a whole lot different from Tinder... only it's in person.

I thought it was great practice.

Some tips:

1) Look your very best. Have decent breath and use deodorant. Go easy on cologne but wear a bit.

2) Stand out from the crowd... EVERYONE will ask what the person does for a living and if they're originally from X city.... Have something cool to talk about or something off the cuff. One story that worked for me was being completely snubbed by a (very big name) celebrity when I ran into him on the street... And then sneaking photos with him after he refused to take them (and I had the photos as well).

3) Have fun. This is not a 'serious' dating engagement. I think everyone has a realistic expectation with speed dating. You go to have a couple drinks with friends and maybe meet someone.

4) Take notes... I took notes on everyone (on the paper they provide you)... It helps you remember the person when you receive your matches... IE: you match with Jessica... And then you think "which of those 25 girls was Jessica?!" --- if you have notes you can see she was the hot blonde with the nice bum.

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PostPosted: Sat Aug 15, 2015 12:50 am 
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What can be done? Not a whole lot! That's why I said it's largely physical. If you're physically attractive and don't say something dumb in the 2 mins you get, the girl will likely select you
When you say largely physical, do you also mean kino, too? If that's the case, kino is my biggest sticking point.

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1) Look your very best. Have decent breath and use deodorant. Go easy on cologne but wear a bit.
Least of my worries. I've been reading GQ mags for several years now and know how to take care of myself haha

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2) Stand out from the crowd... EVERYONE will ask what the person does for a living and if they're originally from X city.... Have something cool to talk about or something off the cuff.
I'm well aware of this trap, but don't know any means to avoid it. After all, shouldn't the guy be the one to qualify the girl? Or I could just talk about how i went to a rock concert and hugged my favorite band, but what would she get out of it? I'd try to imagine what the girl would be thinking, "Okay, he went to a rock concert and heard a band im not interested in. This sounds boring."

But then again, letting the girl do all the talking is counter-productive, too. i guess i just dont know how much i should say and what i should say i soon as my ass takes that empty seat in front of her.

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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2015 4:33 am 
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So I've got my eyes set for a speed-dating event. if I do plan on going, what types of questions should I ask? cuz from where im standing, asking generic questions, like "Where do you live? Where do you work? etc," won't make me stand out from all the other 15-ish guys who already asked the girl the same thing

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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2015 9:19 pm 
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I'm trying to think back to what I used but it was a long time ago.

Anything works really, as long as it's not creepy or too weird. It's sort of like openers: their effectiveness is really overrated IMO - you can say almost anything if you look good, there's a physical attraction and you don't say something dumb like "I bet your cunt is nice" or something.

Playful is good.

What kinds of things are you into? If you're big into something like sports you can ask about that. If you love video games you best be damn sure that chick is wearing glasses and a Pokemon shirt, though ;)


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 18, 2016 12:17 am 
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Alright, so I've actually signed up for this one speed event that'll happen later this month. At first, I was a bit nervous for registering, but after asking a couple girls what they're thoughts were (ranging from "it'll be fun!" to "i wouldn't do to"), I'll just reframe the experience as nothing to worry about, don't overthink it, etc.

Since this'll be my first time, I'd want to start off on the right foot. Here are some things I'll keep in mind, but I also want to know what you guys think:

• Dress up like someone straight out of a GQ magazine.
• Don't ask questions, make statements ("What do you do for work?" to "With glasses those big, you look like someone who'll write a blogpost about me in their Salon article. And it'll only talk about my butt")
• Move slowly and deliberately. Make strong eye contact.
• Don't shower the girl with IOIs unless she actually does/says something that warrants it.
• Stay away from controversial topics, such as religion and politics. ESPECIALLY POLITICS.
• Qualify her.
• Be a good storyteller.

Any pointers that I missed?

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