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Hey, guys. I really don't know who to talk to and you're my last hope.
I met this wonderful girl on Tinder(I know, I know) in June. I'm 22, she's 20, both in college. For a whole month we weren't able to see each other. She was in another city and I was too. In this month we talked, we got to know each other, we got really-really close. I found out some nice things about her and some not so nice ones (she had an abusive boyfriend, she did drugs and even miscarried - accidental pregnancy; only safe sex in the past). I was scared at first but decided to give her a chance.
When we finally met, we clicked instantly and had sex that night(she had never had sex on a first date nor sex without taking pills or smoking weed). She called me "my love" and in the morning she said "I love you"... I was a little shocked things were moving this fast. After that night, we each went to our hometown.
Fast forward to today. We're on summer holiday and living miles apart. She's always hitting my phone up, video-calling me, she always wants to sext, have internet sex or phone sex. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it every once in a while, but I'm more of a "the real deal" type of a guy. And every time I try to decline her "offers" or try to talk less , she gets mad for a couple of minutes but calms down really quick.
My issue are trust related. This sexual addiction of her together with her past drug use have been stuck on my mind for quite a while. I know there are tons of girls out there and there is no use of staying in a relationship with someone who is "objectifying" and praising my d*ck as the most beautiful thing ever created (yes, I am big and thick, but this is not relevant). Sometimes I'm feeling used and I'm about to kick all the "when I kissed you, I felt the next 60 years of my life and this scared me" shit of hers.
It is obvious she's been in toxic relationships in the past and even had sex related issues with her parents earlier in her life(they think she's a virgin, but man, the way she blows and swallows!). I care about her and I want to get her through all these problems, but I don't want to be the rebound guy. She feels I'm the one whom she should have unprotected sex with, wants to try a FMF (gave her the MFM talk and she declined my offer) and is ok with me fucking other girls(which I haven't done nor do) as long as I don't invest in them. She said she doesn't another guy.
I don't know what to do.I'm torn between staying and leaving. If beautiful and smart girls come with mental problems, I think I'll stick to beautiful girls.
I'm tired of jacking in front of the webcam, I'm tired of her getting mad and then turning all soft and I'm tired of being too far. Next weekend, we're gonna see each other and I want to have a long talk with her. Any suggestions?
OVERTHINK ALERT.
Ask her out. Be playful. Have fun. Make her cum.
Rinse, repeat, and she's yours for as long as you want.
You can be the guy that has a few 9's and 10's chasing *him*, or you can be the Debbie Downer who always has "talks" with girls, who ends up getting friend-zoned for being a whiny bitch.