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Seems like he is trying to get into it tho lol... So, there is a problem here. It's 100% ok to have a fetish. Many have them. But there is still the social norm you have to adhere to.
Take MILFs for example. If I go around being loud asking mom's "HEY I LIKE MILF, DATE ME" they will most likely not respond well. Whereas, if I approach like a normal social person, and say "hey... you caught my eye. am doing MILF vids on youtube, do you mind if I film your body?" That will probably work better because you are not outing her in public. The louder you are and the more attention you draw to yourself, the less likely you're going to be successful in this situation.
It's not really about being proud and outing yourself, it's about doing what's socially acceptable. By approaching and doing it, your already showing fear is not holding you back.
Oh okay. That makes sense. Never thought about it that way. The reason why I thought maybe I have to project is cause when I walk up to a female that catches my eye who I want to ask theirs been times where a guys walking right up behind her or to her side, and so my voice lowered cause I was embarrassed of them hearing...voice lowered so low she said huh like 3 times and I had to repeat myself before she rejected it....or I was so self conscience about potential ball busters or mean girls around my target making fun of me or laughing at me cause of the fetish that I shamefully asked in a low voice which I feel makes an already weird thing appear more weird. On the other hand I feel as if I confidently just layed it out in the open with out worrying about who hears-asking in a clear, loud, voice then it projects more confidence, looks less weird and if she says no, I can turn to the next girl and be like what about you or something....but my approach style nows been to safe. I ask and only the woman I ask hears...I get rejected with out people knowing because I'm so safe. I just feel like I'd get better quality and more success in obtaining more vids for the tube and even numbers from the same girls If I treated this like its not a weird thing and just said fuck my repuation, let everyone know I got a foot fetish.
The way I see it I have to suffer. I have to be put in the fire and just survive til its over...and by the end of it the award will be worth it to a degree despite the social humiliation I endure. One girl was super hot, and I could've gotten a longer clip, but I heard a howling laughter in the back round and I cut it short. Just felt super strange. I need to just do it....but the fear is REAL.